15 Jan 2016, 1:06 am
Physical or psychological desirable traits?
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15 Jan 2016, 1:35 am
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15 Jan 2016, 3:17 am
I wear clean pants every day 
Though if you are not from UK that may mean something different..
15 Jan 2016, 3:20 am
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15 Jan 2016, 5:15 am
Knickers or underwear, but in the US it means trousers, I think
15 Jan 2016, 5:16 am
15 Jan 2016, 5:46 am
I don't know, I feel it'd be narcissistic to brag about myself like this.. I let other people decide what are "desirable qualities" because one person will think I'm funny, while the next will think my sense of humor makes me an as*hole. One will tell me I offer good advice and listen well and the next will say I have no idea what I'm talking about.
Does that make me humble? 
15 Jan 2016, 8:51 am
Well, I don't really have any desirable traits.
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15 Jan 2016, 8:54 am
I have come up with an essay. But I'll compress it for readability's sake. 
2 things seem like the most important properties of an attractive quality
1) creates pleasure (in whatever way, sexual is usually important)
2) reinforces bonding (in whatever way, intimacy & acceptance usually important)
If these are the most important properties (I'm having the audacity to prooflessly claim that they are, mind you), then
3) Self-controlled.
4) Takes teasing well.
that would make these rather meh.
Humor is pretty good though.
Everyone: If you can find reason to disagree with me, pls do so and especially challenge my view on what makes a quality attractive.
15 Jan 2016, 9:29 am
15 Jan 2016, 10:27 am
2 things seem like the most important properties of an attractive quality
1) creates pleasure (in whatever way, sexual is usually important)
2) reinforces bonding (in whatever way, intimacy & acceptance usually important)
If these are the most important properties (I'm having the audacity to prooflessly claim that they are, mind you), then
3) Self-controlled.
4) Takes teasing well.
that would make these rather meh.
Humor is pretty good though.
Everyone: If you can find reason to disagree with me, pls do so and especially challenge my view on what makes a quality attractive.
When I'm attracted to someone, it's because I get the sense of something in them that is more than them, and I am drawn to that.
They have the draw of a puzzle I want to solve but that is unsolvable, but that doesn't matter because the pleasure, the jouissance, is in the puzzle, not the solution.
I suspect for me, an attractive quality is something I generically like that I can 'hang' the attraction on, in an attempt to make it tangible, to answer the troubling query of 'what do you like about me?'.
That said, there is something in the idea of strength of character.
Or perhaps, as Neil Finn sings: 'colour is its own reward'.
15 Jan 2016, 10:34 am
2 things seem like the most important properties of an attractive quality
1) creates pleasure (in whatever way, sexual is usually important)
2) reinforces bonding (in whatever way, intimacy & acceptance usually important)
If these are the most important properties (I'm having the audacity to prooflessly claim that they are, mind you), then
3) Self-controlled.
4) Takes teasing well.
that would make these rather meh.
Humor is pretty good though.
Everyone: If you can find reason to disagree with me, pls do so and especially challenge my view on what makes a quality attractive.
5) Interesting.
6) Entertaining.
7) Dexterous.
15 Jan 2016, 10:58 am
Well, I have green eyes, so I guess that could be seen as desirable to some. :/
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