I HATE TINDER

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I HATE TINDER!

I GET A MATCH WITH A GIRL BUT WHAT'S THE POINT? SHE HAS LITERALLY 10 OTHER GUYS FIGHTING OVER HER AND WHY THE HELL WOULD SHE CHOOSE ME? IM A LOSER, I CAN'T TALK WITH WOMEN, I DONT KNOW WHAT TO SAY. IM UGLY, IM STUPID, IM SOCIALLY AWKWARD. THEY ALWAYS GHOST ME OR DONT RESPOND, THEY DONT GIVE ME A CHANCE!


ID BE SCARED TO DO ANYTHING LIKE GO ON A DATE BECAUSE THEN SHE WOULD SEE ME KNOW HOW MUCH OF A LOSER I REALLY AM. IM ONLY 5 FT 3, BIG HEAD, WEIRD VOICE, UGLY FACE, AND TERRIBLE SOCIALLY. IM DESTINED TO FAIL WITH EVERY GIRL. DO YOU KNOW WHAT THATS LIKE?


BUT I WANT TO BE WITH A PRETTY GIRL SO BAD BUT THATS SOMETHING I COULD NEVER HAVE. AND WHEN A GIRL I LIKE CHOOSES ANOTHER GUY OVER ME SIMPLY BECAUSE HE'S MORE CHARMING, TALLER, MORE ATTRACTIVE, AND BETTER SOCIALLY, I FEEL LIKE PUNCHING A WALL. IT'S UNFAIR! THERES ONLY SO MUCH I CAN TAKE!


THIS IS WHY I HATE DATING BECAUSE ITS SOMETHING I WILL NEVER BE GOOD AT. I WAS BORN DIFFERENT, I WAS BORN AUTISTIC. AUTISM IS A SYNONYM FOR UNDATEABLE.


IM NOT LIKE MOST GUYS WHERE THEY CAN TAKE REJECTION AND SIMPLY BRUSH IT OFF. I CANT DO THAT, EVERY TIME A GIRL GHOSTS ME OR REJECTS ME, IT HURTS AND IT TAKES ME SEVERAL DAYS OR EVEN MONTHS TO RECOVER.

IM DELETING THAT TINDER APP BECAUSE WHATS THE POINT ANYMORE?

You wouldn't find any worthy people there anyway. Tinder is too mundane I guess.

I think you should delete your profile. This sounds to much pressure. Have you heard of meetup ? Google for detail , I have found this great way to meet new people. I notice there are some groups for social anxiety. It's not a dating site, just a way to get out andmeet people. However people do meet partners via the groups.

I HATE CAPS.

bust a cap in da app

I hate them, I hate them all. I hate them because they're what I could never have and i'm a loser because of it.

I'm just so upset right now, I want to scream.

Do you know what it's like to watch a girl you like and really want to be with walk off with another guy? For her to ignore you and treat you like you don't matter? Someone you obsess over for months call you a creep! This happens all of the time.









Iv'e changed a lot this year... Iv'e become more angry and depressed over myself. Look at me, i'm just some stupid ugly autistic who's going to be single for the rest of his life.

Based on what you have said in this thread, perhaps one thing for you to work on is to learn how not to obsess over someone and therefore not exhibit signs of "creepiness".

It sounds like these women aren't simply choosing someone else, they are seeing something in your behaviour that is turning them off (i.e. they find you creepy). Figure out what that is, see if you can work on it, might help.

Yes, I do know what it is like to watch someone you like walk off with someone else. I think most people know that feeling. I imagine it is easier to deal with if you haven't gotten to the point of obsessing over them. If you are not intimate with them, you probably don't really know them well enough to know if they are even worth obsessing over, so anything more than a healthy dose of attraction and interest is unnecessary and can lead to unnecessary pain.

Apps like Tinder or Hot or Not are shallow, being a girl, most guys on those things are there for a hook up or to 'Netflix and chill' and likewise guys I match with have probably made contact with 10 or more girls and have them on lock, however not all of them, some can be genuine, but it takes time and looking into people.

Many girls are like that, they focus on looks, charm, occupation etc but you can find some amazing ones who will appreciate character initially, it just takes time. With dates I always feel nervous about sparking a conversation, but you just have to kick away any doubts and try your best, it can be tricky with Aspergers but I usually go to places that are interesting with lots of ice breakers and you can't blame yourself if you try!

Maybe get to know some aspie girls, there are pretty aspie girls out there who might also understand you. I am dating a NT at moment but some aspie guys I've encountered aren't so bad and seem pretty awesome to me.

It's all just judgement on someone's profile picture etc and you never really know if everyone on there is genuine. You should delete the app like I did and find an alternative.

I used to mess around on those things but eventually I stopped and just met people through friends or if I talk to anyone online I really look into them, how many people they talk to, what those people are like, how they are treating me etc.

I'm Aspergers and I've been on many dates don't feel like it's not possible or that we are undateable.

I recently actually tried out this Tinder thingumy and discovered it's not as bad as I had expected. BUT, it certainly is NOT for people who don't handle rejection well (like the OP). Ghosting and rejecting are the main things that happen on it. It's so common to send one or two messages then one person "unmatches" the other. Also there are people who swipe right on everybody, then actually look at their picture and bio only once there is a match, so again there's a lot of "unmatching" going on.

Only use Tinder if you are aware of its fickle nature and are fine with that.

I feel you.