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Just saw your post Stressed Out. Gosh. Those people are probably trying to bully you into quitting. They probably want to bully you so much, little by little, that at some point you will think it's not worth working there. Horrible people who enjoy making fun of others and tormenting them. Reminds me of the audience on Jerry Springer. And then if you tell a supervisor/manager, those people will become even more abusive, or stop talking to you, or increase their nasty staring, to the extent that everyday at work they will make you feel very sad. They will eat away at you, slowly destroying you, making you depressed, angry, etc. They're little sociopaths.

I can't tell if someone has AS or not. None of the signs really standout to me.

The first thing I jumped to was thinking they were nasty people too. I have a low opinion of most people in that environment, because they act like sociopaths. Those are the kind of people who've been trained from childhood to be little worker sociopaths. The whole "ganging up on someone different and trying to manipulate them into leaving by making you feel bad" thing seems totally plausible to me. That's why I'd really prefer not to work in a corporate setting, unless it was for a place like 37signals where the owners are actually smart enough to actually setup a sane work environment.



I don't think I've met one before, I'm pretty reserved though... I don't really get how to meet people, or feel motivated enough to push through my anxiety enough to actually do it.

Yes, I was friends with a couple of girls on the spectrum. I didn't mean to make it sound like they were mean to me. One stopped talking and she would say things and sometimes it seemed like she would say things and not follow through. I remember she said the reason why she stopped talking was something like I would be somewhere else when she made plans. I didn't really understand it because I would sometimes be busy when she wanted to do something, but I wouldn't do it to play games or anything and it seemed like she thought that I was. Me and the other girl kind of just drifted apart, but we've still been friendly the times that we would run into each other. There's still a few people that I'm friends with now that are on the spectrum too. I use to be in a LDR with a guy on the spectrum too. I had some trust issues with him and when he said things that didn't add up it caused me to get upset and he wouldn't really seem to explain things to me and them I would get more upset. Maybe part of that was my fault for overreacting. He also didn't seem very interested in me like maybe he just wanted a girlfriend. Then he eventually told me that he didn't want a LDR and then about a week later we stopped talking all together.

I was diagnosed when I was little.



I would. I just worry about misleading someone.



Yeah, I mostly try to avoid them if I can. They don't really make fun of me, but they would invade my personal space and bump into me sometimes. Someone was messing with my rear view mirror. Maybe it's a vandal and jsut a coincidence, but I think it might be someone at work There are a lot of people at work that act pretty nice to me though

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Wear short skirts.


No seriously. It works quite well!

You shouldn't worry about such nonsense. It's their fault if they misinterpret you.

I just worry because I've done it before by accident and it has also happened to me.

sly meets slw.

slw meets sly.

slw and sly are both aspies and lonely.

therefore slw and sly decide to make....babies! :>

and they shall call them slv and slz.

Interesting that you didn't mention slx

By misleading do you mean making someone think you like them more than you do? Or something else, like people wanting a certain something. Or something else altogether, like maybe just not understanding each other and their intentions? Regardless I agree that you shouldn't worry so much about if people get the wrong idea, if that happens you could just tell them what's what. As far as people misleading you that's a bit trickier... I guess you'd just have to go slowly and pay careful attention to people and try to get a good "read" on them over time.

PS, I hope things with people at work being weird clears up for you

Wear Short Skirts.

It works!

No pressure right?

You already said that.

No, it doesn't (at least not exclusively).

This is oversimplified, idiotic, and not helpful advice. All this would do is attract the wrong sort of guy.

SLW is a pretty woman; and Sly is a pretty-decent looking guy.

That would be cool if they could get together!