Sad i don't have a sweetheart

Post Reply New Topic

Thank you. I am actually not sad anymore. I just had to stop thinking about, then i was allright. I'm not sure if I will. I do hope so. I can dream.

Automotive isn't work field for aspies with hearing sensitivity , touch sensitivity, social issues and anxiety.

For me, distracting myself with chores of work is the best way to shift my mind from negative events or situations. It does not solve the problem, but it helps to refocus our minds in preparation to tackle any problem that life throws at us.

You already were imperfect and you always will be. We all are.
The judgemental world is ultimately in your head; you can choose not to buy into it.

One way or another, we're all average. We all end up feeding the worms and making mistakes on our way to the grave. We all have flaws even if our outsides are shiny. People who truly love each other though do so because of who that other person is - outside and in; how that person makes them feel. Though average to others, that person is special to them. And that's all that matters.

Would you rather have someone pretty and thin on your arm that you can show off who is only there because you're a millionaire, would drop you the second your funds dropped, cheats with other men, could give a crap about you or how you feel, and all around is a despicable person; or, would you want someone who makes you laugh, makes you think, stays by your side when you recover from surgery or are sick, would never cheat on you, knows and values you - all of your qualities And imperfections, hopes and fears, and with whom you simply enjoy being with? And if she were 30lbs overweight?

If you're not attracted to women who are larger, there's nothing wrong with that and nothing wrong with not going out with her if you're not attracted. But if you are attracted and thus choose to go out with her, you may repeatedly lose a great person in front of you if locked into the notion that there is perfection elsewhere.

I may sound shallow, but I am still quite young.

All I mean to say, is that, irregardless of how ambitious and hardworking I am to better myself as a person, it appears I still attract a heavy number of people who are far less desirable to me personally.

What I find undesirable are physically unattractive (by my standards), out-of-shape, rude, selfish, aggressive, unambitious, immature females of a low socio-economic background.

As a male who takes care of his appearance, works very hard to be charismatic and socially charming, is calm and relaxed, generally tries to be non-selfish and donating, and has ambition and goals in their life and future, I find it a little disheartening that the only females I can seem to attract are ones of the same social background, but possessing all of the traits I deem undesirable.

I did word it quite arrogantly, but I did not mean to at all.

However, the good news is that all my hardwork is paying off, but not in the ways that I wanted it to.

I now attract plenty of males and females that are typically considered to be extremely desirable and liked.

The type of girls my age that like me, are what you'd expect to be the typical hot, popular type girls in high school, same with the males (I'm bisexual, btw).

However, I almost never feel any sort of compatibility when it comes to personality with any of them whatsoever, and by all means, I've tried. Most of them are quickly turned off by my personality or I bore them, and they to me.

I just want an average male or female, of average attractivness level.

These extremely attractive people I come across, I am not attracted to personally, just that they are what most of society may consider 'attractive'.

They are typically narcissistic, rude, aggressive wigger (link: http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&sour ... TOHu59yR7o) males or snobby, uptight, judgementel females. Both genders have been what I describe as 'boring' (no hobbies/interests, at least ones that don't require talent or creativty).

I just want the average, plain looking nerdy/geeky and/or hippy/artistic type gals, but even if I was acquiantances with some in high school, most of them seem to want nothing to do with me. They might think I'M out of THEIR 'league', but if that sounds like an arrogant thing of me to say, it's probably just to justify my own lack of success and attention from them.

I disagree. If being with someone is meaningless to a guy, he could easily leave her. Why would somebody want to be with someone who could easily cheat or take off? I prefer someone who's "desperate" over someone to whom a relationship means next to nothing. It's also easy to say "be happy alone" when you're 19. The older you get the harder it gets being alone. Just wait until you're over 30. You will understand then.

What is it? Building cars? Did you give it a try?

I find it ironic how irregardless of attractiveness or success level, we all can't attain what we want out of a relationship.

RetroGamer targets women he believes will raise his definition of status and success, thin and attractive foreign women, and seemingly cares little of personality. He is not satisfied with 'average women' and the overweight girlfriend's he has had.

I try to work hard to achieve an attractive look and personality, and simply desire the 'average', as the average is my ideal, but either end up with the overly-unattractive or overly-attractive but incompatible.

My best girlfriend, the second, was of average attractiveness but had the ideal personality to me.

I do get some attention from average people, the 5's and 6's, but most people seem to be on the 7-9 end of the scale.

Well should it become legal and accepted I guess all those women can share what they've deemed 'the very best few' males among themselves...I at least would prefer to keep my boyfriend all to myself. Also last I checked the world is still plenty crowded so I am not too worried if people are choosing not to have kids. As for women adapting and men dying off not sure where you are getting that generally both sexes adapt...history has never shown a case of women adapting and men simply dying off.

Fixing them. I interned at s few shops. I kinda knew it wasn't likely a job I could do when I was still in classes, but It was already too late. Still I gave it a try.

One has to be ok with loud noises, people yelling at you, self starter, confident, strong enough to life and move heavy stuff, fast, super fast. As in an oil ch age takes 20 minutes but they want it done in 5-10. I was taking 30 minutes sometimes. Try moving a care that cost 50k and up into a slot that's just s little bit wider then the car it's self and when past the door the slot shifts to an angle. I also can't drive a manual transmission.
I actually scraped a car once . The shop owner and everyone was super pissed at me. See any mistakes you make the shop is responsible and then mad at you. So I had a constant fear of making mistakes as I tend to make mistakes. That shop hired someone else.

You also have to have thousands and thousands to hundreds of thousands of dollars worth of tools before you can get a job at a shop. They don't provide any of the tools you need. Cost saving to the shop I suppose is the only reason. Some high end shops like Porsche or bmw I think provide tools, but they only hire super experienced people who then go through their sloe five training programs.

Just not a job for a poor aspie. I'm not super smart, so I though a job using hands would be good, automotive tec though is actually quite smart needed. You need to me more engineer and electrican then hands on now. Cars are more like computers then their 80s counter parts.

I think I'd been better working a factory job to bad those are all but non existent now.
I'm not stupid, I just lack an ability to remember loads and loads of technical information and recite it exactly as was read from s book, basically function like w computer.lol

Because until recent history women relied on men to survive, now they don't need men.
In a hundred years from now there may be far less men then women.
Not much a poor ugly man can do to adapt as we can't afford the plastic surgery need to adapt. I think a lot of women would rather share the Prince Charming type then have to settle for the pig farmer.

Sly, you could have an at-home mechanic business, couldn't you?

You'd be your own boss and have less pressure to fix the cars quickly, and can do it part-timely.

Or are you saying you worked as a technician in the actual car manufacturing industry, and not car mechanic?

Car mechanic
I don't have the space or tools. I suck at it, I can't diagnosis problems. Only replace parts.

Running a shop at home is illegal. One you need a business license then once you have that your business's location has to meet strict government inspections.

I would fit in with a lot of the guys in Japan

Well then that is a lot of women I don't feel I'd have much in common with....I'd take the pig farmer if I get him all to myself, while the Prince Charming with his many girlfriends/wives can also have all the drama that would come with constantly having multiple women competing for his attention and affections and their jealousy of one another. With all those kinds of women sharing the few prince charmings though, maybe it would be easier to find the women who aren't a part of that crowd.

Perhaps in a hundred years there may be far less men that women, but no real way to predict since as far as I know the sex a baby is born is random...there is nothing making the chance babies will be born female increase that I know of. I think its more likely the world population as a whole will decrease...but don't think it would necessarily do a lot to change the ratio of males and females in the population.

Marriage for love is a pretty new phenomenon - it uised to be to consolidate property/wealth. The destitute pig farmer might not have had the best shot.

Sad that sly thinks women having no/few choices is a desirable strategy for getting a sweetie.