Getting a Boyfriend is HARD!!

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I hate having Aspergers! My social skills making me keep my mouth shut & probably make me shy around men. How can I talk to a man if I'm not very good at talking? I talk to my male neighbors & I'm comfortable around them.

If you talk comfortable to male neighbors then your problem is not AS.

This is called love-shy.

"Finding hard to communicate with a crush" is not within the AS criteria.

Yeah finding your boyfriend is unfortunately quite difficult for the moment. I found him for you though. I found some ways through that noise. Much love from cberg, it's something we all need here.

have you at least had a boyfriend before?

What?

I think Kitty should know that she is a nice woman, and that she has nice hair and a sincere personality. Any guy would be lucky to date her. She really gets to the heart of things--she's super-honest.

I hope Kitty is able to date Jeff. But even if this is not successful, I'm sure they'll be other guys who would enjoy dating her.

It's hard at times, in this society, for the woman to make the "first move." This is probably why she is so shy. And she also doesn't want to feel rejection.

I wish Jeff would come up to her, and ask her out to the movies.

We'll find a way.

I had one boyfriend, but that was over 20 years ago after that I gave up on men. We never dated.

What is love-shy? I was uncomfortable with one of my male neighbors at first.

When I saw Jeff yesterday, I wish I talk to him instead of being stupid, I had a chance to talk to him & I blew it. He could have talk to me, but he didn't he just walked away like I did when I saw him last week.

I know why I'm shy, cuz I can't talk to guys too good & my last boyfriend was over 20 years ago. I wish I knew Jeff email address, so I could write him, writing is so easy for me.

That's your comfort zone though, and dating is about moving out of that comfort zone. Let's face it there are a lot of unknowns in dating, that's what makes it scary and exciting. I'm one for planning for the future by using the mistakes of the past, but I'll admit, that doesn't work in dating because one needs to be "in the moment". Being in the moment opens yourself up to mistakes and miscues, but it's also where all the excitement is at, so you need to embrace the excitement and not the fear.

If you're thinking "It's been 20 years since I had this last" then you are setting yourself up for failure. If you're worried about inexperience you will miss out on gaining experience. Everyone makes mistakes, especially in dating, being a little "rough around the edges" isn't an instant turn off, it just means you need some guidance. If he's a person deserving of your time he'll help you out and not make it an issue.

Boyfriend is not an object to get him!!

Stop objectifying us the men!!

"Getting" a boyfriend? Seriously?? The HORROR! The misandry!! The inhumanity!!

Men, to the the revolution!!

PS: I am sure that Kraftie would love to be "gotten" by you though.

He likes to be objectified by a lady!! Eurgh!

But I like this, I think so

There is nothing about relationships in the AS criteria, yet it's pretty obvious that plays a big part in it (and I'd say especially in diagnosis).

Relationships not being part of AS criteria is the major reason why AS diagnosis is not very useful when discussing what in this area is related to AS and what is not.

I still don't know what Jeff wants from me, does he want to date me, be my boyfriend without dating or be friends?

I don't know what he sees in me. I wish I can see him without getting very shy so we can talk to each other, cuz worrying tooooo much is not good for my psoriasis & this crazy weather.