Being single ROCKS!

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Yeah, I been single for 10 years and have been free and happy, although there have been times i felt lonely and depressed but I snap out of it, I realize I am independent, nobody to tie me down, nobody to boss me around and tell me what to do and not having me drain my emotions on someone else who wont appreciate anything I do for them! Im a lone wolf, independent and free and don't need anybody! I am free and nobody can tame me, and I am saving money!

I second that. Next month is the one year anniversary of my divorce, and it's the best thing I could've done for myself.

Relatinships are over rated, fight, stay free and dont let anyone tie ya down, if ya need sex get a fwb then move forward and carry on and keep saving money! True love is a myth anyway and a waste of time! All what matters is being free and not needing anyone and do your own thing!

Ahem... Woman here.... I have dated plenty of jerk men and found the only happiness i can manage to keep close without them lying or cheating on me or just plain lacking appreciation and desire... Is my Cat.

So hooray for platonic Cat Love thats unconditional for us Aspie Girls!

I feel the same way with my car, i take care of it it will take care of me, it will always be there for me and not treat me like crap, or cheat on me or abuse me. I am free.

That's the sprit. self love is underrated and should be taught to others. I may be only 20 but I get the feeling that I'm going to spend a good part of my life being on my own and you know what. I can deal with it.

The older I get, the more I find being single desirable. The final nail in the coffin was seeing my friends enter long-term relationships. They aged by 30 years in 6 months! Instead of joining me for a night of salsa dancing or a day of hiking on a rail trail (abandoned railroad turned into a path), they sit at home with their girlfriends, watching "The Notebook" and debating over paint swatches. And they insist on being joined at the hip 24/7.

I'm the opposite. Instead of being an inmate in the Girlfriend Department of Corrections, I'm more physically active and socially involved now than I ever was in my whole life. I lost 20 lb over those 6 months. I got into sports. I joined singles' groups. I learned to enjoy flirting. So the notion of a relationship terrifies me.

Ive never been in a relationship and don't
See myself getting in one . Not everyone is ment to be in a relationship .

People in relationships don't have to become boring. They just tend to get that way. Part of it is also getting older and having more responsibilities. Kids are a huge responsibility.

Been in one relationship or another since age twenty, and I'm not boring yet. And I don't intend to get that way, either. I also don't intend to "let myself go." Ever. I don't care if I'm 80 years old, I'm not going to stop caring about my health and appearance.

None of my friends have kids... yet. But they're acting like they're already grandparents, let alone parents. Their idea of a fun weekend night is a snooze-inducing dinner party. Heck, I've met actual grandparents, like at dance classes I take, who were more fun than my current friends and their girlfriends. When as little as 6 months ago, we used to go to salsa clubs together and compare notes the end of the night. And whenever I see laid-back, fun-loving couples out in public, especially on trains (my last girlfriend HATED public transit), my brain gets a proverbial blue screen, and doesn't know what to make of it.

I'm planning to cultivate my current strictly-casual friendships to become closer, in case my close friends all start having kids. I do try to be civil to my friends' girlfriends, but it's really difficult. Because it seems like they look down on me for being single.

Sounds like they are just really into each other at the moment. Couples tend to get that way. They often abandon their friends. They probably don't look down on you, but you don't fit into the couples group.

I'm not sure what's so enjoyable about a dinner party. Would be like a nightmare to me. Of course, I have no friends anyway, so the chances of that happening are slim.

I'm often told I'm better off where I am right now. No crazy exes, no kids, no financial burdens and a lot of money in my bank account. I have a good job and just bought a new car. If I caved to my temptations and was with the wrong person and did something stupid in one moment of weakness, I wouldn't be where I'm at right now. People can brag about having sex all the time but once they are tied down to someone by paying child support or even alimony to the suckers out there not to mention if they have screaming kids they have to drag out of stores, I think to myself, "thank god, that's not me."

Ive just moved out of a 4 year relatioship this month. Living away from her now, i havent felt so much more calm and open ... it seems to have ended like this 3 other times for me before... where i am set free from some slow growing noose once we finally part ways. I always seem to make some sort of guilty promise to myself "never do that again... dont waste someone's time with your declining interest in them "
Appreciating all of the positive posts here. Thankyou

I can't figure out what's so fun about a dinner party, either. If the couples are looking to "bond" (notice the quotes), then going out dancing together or sharing in on a train ride is much more of a bonding experience that sitting around a table, and talking... talking... talking... Until one person (me) starts playing games on his smartphone, right during dinner, rudeness nonewithstanding, just to make the evening go by faster.

I have no problem with people being into each other. I do have an issue with them having aged by 30 years just because they're coupled-up. That's why seeing fun, outgoing couples in public looks and feels so confusing to me. That goes tenfold for groups of couples, like the drunk (but well-behaved) group I saw on a train.

I have heard that people stop caring about their appearance once they have the approval and security of a relationships. Factors such as age, responsibility and genetics play a strong role as well.

Well, it is an aspie trait to prefer participating in activities with friends over just having conversations. That could be part of the problem, unless they are also aspies. They probably actually like the dinner parties. Or maybe just one person is deciding that dinner parties are the preferred activity, and everyone else just goes along with it.

Maybe you could try inviting everyone out to do something different and see what happens. I'm not sure what your age group is, but if you're fairly young, I'm not sure why your friends are not into doing other things. Usually those in their twenties (around here) are still going out to have fun, unless they have kids.



Yes, I've heard that as well. It seems to be true for many people. I spend a lot of time caring for myself: staying fit, eating healthy, taking care of my hair, skin, and teeth, etc. For me, that will never change. I will probably age better than most as I stay out of the sun, don't smoke, do drugs, and exercise regularly. I take care of myself for myself, so my relationship status shouldn't have an effect.