Being single ROCKS!

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I think alcohol, nicotine and processed foods and most of the common factors as well. I have found that a paleo diet rich in antioxidants, silica and selenium is the most beneficial.

I think home cooking has always been healthier and if you look at countries they emphasise home cooking and vegetable growing, they are much healthier.

Inviting the group out anywhere falls on deaf ears. Many a time, my friends say that "nobody" wants to go. I know the girlfriends are to blame: they tire out really easily. I'll wager a guess and say that one person insists on dinner parties, and everyone else just follows like sheep. Because just 6 month ago, there were no dinner parties.

We're all in our early 30's. Which is why I think the homebody lifestyle is really odd. Also why I said they "aged by 30 years". This seems to be unique to my group. Because when I go to singles' events and social groups, even people in their 50's still want to go out, be it to museums, dancing, etc. The only limitation is my finances.

There was also something a family member said to me, when I mentioned pursuing my interests within a relationship. It was: "Forget about your interests! They're not important. What matters is how your and your significant other feel about each other." Needless to say, it made me want to stay single forever; cross my heart, hope die, stick a needle...

A man without a woman is like a Dog without Fleas.

Usually when somebody espouses the virtues of being single they are talking about being free from someone else's drama and of monogamy. I don't see much positives about being alone.

I hate being alone and would love to be invited to dinner parties.

Agreed. A lot of people I see who think it's great to be single say it's great because:

1. You can have as much one night-stands and casual sex as you want.
2. You can travel/go anywhere you want and there's nothing holding you back.
3. You're free from the drama of relationships/the occasional fights/issues, etc.

And to those I say:

1. I'm not interested in that stuff.
2. But other responsibilities (job, etc.) and other people in your life (family, friends) will usually keep you in one place. Besides, you can find love with a person who loves going anywhere, doing anything with you as well.
3. You get that in family, and you get that with your friends sometimes as well. Having a loving relationship 90% of the time is worth it if there will be arguments or problems sometimes. Sometimes, as in a healthy, normal amount., because most relationship do have the occasional problem.

Truly, is there really any negative or bad things about a relationship?

I don't think so, because every negative thing usually comes with friendship as well - feeling you have to compromise sometimes when you don't want to, disagreements/problems, etc.

If the person you're in a relationship with is compatible with you and shares your lifestyle views (e.g. if you're a traveler, they're a traveler, and if they want to live in one place, you do too) then there really wouldn't be too many problems.

I've heard some people say a relationship is an effort due to needing to make a constant effort to have contact and that, but if keeping in touch with the one you love is a chore, then you're in the wrong relationship.

Like I said it's entirely possible to find someone who only needs as much time to see each other as you do so they won't feel bad if you don't fulfill their needs. Like if you need to talk to them everyday and they do, no problem. If you could go 3-5 days without any sort of contact and they can as well, again, there will be no issue.

People who develop this 'BEING SINGLE IS GREAT' attitude is more of an excuse to me to justify that they couldn't find someone who fit their ideal relationship.

All the 'benefits' that come with being single are all still absolutely possible even while still in a relationship.

Even to those that like one-night stands and casual sex, it's entirely possible to find someone not opposed to the idea of an open relationship.

So really, why would you be happy being single? It brings absolutely no benefits as apparently according to some people a relationship 'won't make you happy, you've got to be happy by yourself and focus on your own life' so apparently a relationship will make NO DIFFERENCE whatsoever in how happy or unhappy you are, meaning being single is no different than being in a relationship and no better.

You can be happy being single but don't deny it; it's better than a bad relationship, but actually no difference compared to a GOOD relationship.

So yes. Being single 'rocks' because we get to live a free, independent life, one that should also be lived if we are in a good relationship, because even if we must compromise when we enter a relationship, it shouldn't prevent us from living our life the way we want to.

Only responsibilities like having kids and such is what does that, not a relationship itself.

So I feel extremely lonely, but I'll try to be happy being single, knowing I'm not actually happier or 'more free' than people my age in relationships, just living slightly differently and slightly more alone, that's all.

If anything, the fact I lack nearby friends which makes me feel extremely lonely while someone with no friends but at least a relationship at least has SOMEONE, actually makes being in a relationship better than being alone.

"Remember, being single is better than being in a bad relationship."

"But I want a GOOD relationship, which is the best of all three. So you can see what my problem is." - Outrider, 2k16.

I've been in two relationships. The first was a bad one, and I was happier being single. But the second was a good one, and to this day I still love her deeply and, even if I can never have her back again, the actual things I desire in a partner are basically a carbon copy of her.

I want to date her but since i can't I'm attracted to anyone who's the closest thing.

Lol. I was a little edgy earlier.

Jacoby and danum brought a bit of negativity to an otherwise fairly positive/neutral forum, I went ahead and outright killed it.

I do enjoy being single as well, no commitment and attachment.

Fact of the matter is, I'm an adventurous guy who wants to see the world and/or do as much do things as possible, but most women will want to set roots down and live in one place at a time.

I'd love to find a woman who would enjoy backpacking and traveling, possibly live in a caravan together and hit the road, etc. but they're a little rare.

Basically non-existent as a teen, and extremely rare in the 18-25 years as most women my age would be attending their four years of university to get their degree and such and then attempt to land a secure job in the very same city quickly after graduation.

It would have to be a counter-culture woman, one not as ambitious or interested in university or a degree and high-earning job, one with far less attachments to the town/city she lives in.

So, I guess, as long as I can adjust to the possibility of traveling just with friends or alone, I have that little advantage.

Yeah, once people reach middle age, it seems most just stop caring about their health in general.

I know I may be young, and have not enough experience, but I still optimisically believe, irregardless of your responsibilities and roles as a parent and adult, it's still entirely possible to live and maintain a healthy body and lifestyle.

Most people simply don't have the will to.

Most other reasons are mere excuses.

Fact of the matter is, assuming one has a 5 day a week, 9-5, non-active office job, one needs only to exercise one hour a day, 2-4 days per week to gain muscle, lose weight, or if you gained muscle and a healthy body in your youth, to do your best to maintain it.

It should be entirely possible to fit one hour of exercise into your schedule Saturday and Sunday, so that's already two days covered. The third? Simply choose the least busiest weekday in the entire week, and adjust your calories to suit the conditions.

With healthy dieting, it can be done everyday. Healthy dieting may be costly, but there's plenty of cost-effective solutions, such as growing one's good organically, quitting smoking and drinking more sporadically (or stocking up on alcohol when it's cheap).

Yigeran has already proven at her age, it's entirely possible to remain healthy, and still should be if she were to ever have children or get a time-consuming weekly job.

It just takes dedication.

In regards to diet, I personally have an Omnivorous one high in supplemental drugs and foods, but my fruit and vegetable sources are slowly becoming more and more organic.

I could probably never give-up non-organic meats and dairies though - organic milk and meat is far to impractical for my taste and doesn't last as long. I feel, though this is just assumption, that organic farmers just seem better at fruits and vegetables for now, and commercialized organic meat and dairy might still be in its infancy.

The paleo diet is pretty good, as long as one makes slight adjustments to it.

Hmm, I know it is rude to ask a lady her age but now you have made me very curious, haha.

You know, maybe it is time for some new friends I mean it really just sounds like your current ones are bringing you down. Sometimes people do change and drift apart, seems like your friends went one way and its not the way you care to go...I mean it sucks, but it doesn't sound like they'll be coming back from the abyss so best to move on maybe. You can remain friendly with them if you want, but don't expect it to go back to how things were before they got girlfriends. Why not try and make friends at some of these singles events? From your posts about it so far it sounds like you're fairly well received by the people at singles events and you seem to be fond of them.

Well, if you are in your early thirties, that is when I have found people tend to get boring. They want to settle down, and have kids, and they are focused on their careers, and their children. I think that age group just has the mind-set that it's time to start being serious about starting a family, and they become boring. Or maybe it's just an NT thing. I have no idea, but I never did "grow up" like other people have.

I think it's entirely possible to have a relationship and pursue your interests at the same time. Just find a person who shares at least a few of your interests and do things together. Not everyone becomes boring as they get older.



I'm between thirty and thirty-five. I actually already have one child. At one time, I was working part-time and going to school part-time, with a child. I was a pescetarian for over a decade, and always exercised to maintain my physical health.

I currently work out about 5 hours a week, mostly strength-training. I do cardio outdoors in the summer, but I hate the cardio equipment at the gyms so I don't really do much cardio in the winter. I don't eat processed foods unless I absolutely have to. Nearly everything I eat is home made, besides things like bread or cereals.

I can understand that those with many children or demanding jobs don't have as much time to take care of themselves, but I do not intend to be one of those people. I plan on staying active as long as possible so that I remain healthy and able to do what I want even into old age.

I also believe that "letting oneself go" in a long-term committed relationship is actually unfair to the other partner. It may shorten one's lifespan, and could cause major health problems that the other partner then has to deal with later on. Plus the fact that it's nice to try to remain physically attractive for one's partner.

Are you referring to powerlifting when you say strength training? I find that most gyms emphasize cardio and the use of machines too much.

As a result, calisthenics and functional strength are neglected in favour of machines. Most people in gyms can't even do a muscle up or ten consecutive pull ups.

What type of workout do you do? a 5x5 routine?

I started off using free weights at home. But I had no bench nor any other equipment besides dumbbells and a barbell with weight plates. My arthritis limited the amount that I could lift; my hands and wrists would tire and hurt long before the muscles that I was actually trying to work would get fully exhausted.

So I joined a gym and use machines. It has allowed me to make much greater gains than when I used free weights. I just can't do it any other way with the problems in my hands, wrists, hip joints, and knees. I tried wrist braces but my hands and wrists are too small. I couldn't find any small enough to fit.

My arthritis is an auto-immune disease that strikes younger people ( usually teens and twenties) and is incurable at the moment. So I do what I can. I'm also abnormally hyperflexible, according to the doctors that I've seen, so I'm more prone to injury.

I rarely do cardio. I do stretch a lot. Once I become stronger, I may start using other equipment, but I really don't know how to use those complicated all-in-one machines that they have. I'd rather have a good weight bench and squat rack. They don't have any of those there.

But I do need the stability of machines right now. When I began to do heavier squats, my hips would sort of pop out of place, and my hands and wrists just hurt too much.

I can do 3 consecutive pull-ups, which isn't bad for a woman. I can bench about 75% of my body weight. I may be able to do more, but I'll have to check again.

I don't do any sort of routine. It depends on what I am able to do, and what it takes to exhaust me completely. I usually go 3 days a week for 1 hr 45 min to two hours, and split the upper and lower body in different ways, depending on how I feel. I am not really strict as to following a specific method, as long as I fully exhaust my muscles, I'm happy.

It's worked well so far. I am increasing the amount of weight and/or reps just about every week, except for the delts. My shoulders tend to pop out of place, too.

At some point I'm going to take the time to do additional research and alter my routine, but I have other things to worry about right now.

Do you ever eat fruit to reduce pain from arthritis or delayed onset muscle soreness? I have read that bromelain found in pineapples can be very anti-inflammatory due to the high content of Bromelain in them. What type of foods do you eat? Do you ever use apple cider vinegar or fermented foods?

I definitely believe that health and fitness is a personal journey for everyone and what works for one person might not work for someone else, how long have you been training for? It seems that you have progressed leaps and bounds on your journey.

In other news, I have run out of peanut butter and Cacao powder.

I love fruit. I just eat it because I like it I do eat fresh pineapple when I can get it on sale. I also love vegetables. I typically eat home cooked meals with many vegetables and whole grains. I do eat meat and fish.

I typically do not get severe muscle soreness unless I try a new exercise.

I have tried various diets. When I became ill, and they couldn't figure out what was wrong, I went to a naturopathic doctor. I tried many diets and supplements. Nothing made a difference. I've even done short-term (2-3 days) fasting because it's supposed to allow the body to recover from autoimmune inflammation. I don't know whether it helped, but I did lose weight.

I'm on a powerful medicine that reduces my inflammation. I have heard that some natural substances have similar, but weaker, properties to my meds, such as turmeric and green tea.

I'll be seeing an allergist to determine whether allergies are contributing to the inflammation. But it's fairly well controlled with my medication at the moment.

I want to ferment my own sauerkraut. I eat miso on occasion, but it has a high salt content. I have made kimchi. This summer I'll finally make my own sauerkraut.

I've only been seriously training a little more than a year. In the past I was always active, but not this fanatical about it.

I just bought some powdered peanut butter. Smoothie time is coming with the warmer weather. I can't really drink them when it's cold.

Fresh pineapple is great and I feel energized afterwards, I did try chopped pineapple and it didn't have the same benefits as the bromelain content isn't as strong. Do you have a Nutribullet? Vegetables are relatively cheap in the United Kingdom but berries and cherries can be expensive.

That does sound frustrating, sometimes I think an underlying health condition can force us to focus on being healthier. I have turmeric, ginger and bromelain every day and I definitely think they are good healing ailments.

I recently bought a book that you might find helpful, it is called Performance Paleo. I have wild Salmon and tuna for protein and brown rice, parsnips or potatoes for carbs most days because it is easy to prepare but some of the protein desserts look good.

Fermented foods can take a lot of preparation, do you ever use cultures for health? Have you tried milk kefir? I would like to try milk kefir but I do not drink cow's milk so I am looking for a good fermented alternative to milk kefir.

Why did you go for the powdered option? I assume that you would choose that to avoid the hydrogenated oils that is many of the supermarket peanut butter brands.