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Sorry for such a short title, in usually more 7p front and open...I'm at my wits end. I've been with my fiancé for 2 years, he was diagnosed with aspergers at a young age. I can easily deal with that and have the mindset to do something he is just extremely angey, and is physically abusive...I need help. Please if anyone can give me some advice. Something...

If he is physically abusive then you need to get away and to get help from the authorities.

There's nothing I can do to make it work? He's willing to go to a mental doctor

I'm sorry you're in this situation. It must be scary.

1. Your first priority must be to remove yourself from the situation. That is not an option. If you are hurt there is no undoing that. Its best for both of you. He can calm down in solitide and you can organize your thoughts.

2. He does need professional help of course. I am not a professional and can't prescribe exactly what he needs. Perhaps it would help to have someone professional to talk to for you also. This person may help to guide how you both interact.

There is no magic medicine or words that someone can give you in this moment to solve this situation. Please protect yourself.

Perhaps it would be best for you to separate yourself from the situation while he seeks help and if he is able to do so then consider getting back together

However if he ever hurts you again after then you cannot allow ot to continue! Abuse is a very serious thing

Only a minority of abusive men are aspies, and only a minority of aspie men are abusive.

Whats salient is that he is physically abusive, not that he is an aspie.

For that reason even an aspie man like me would advise you to get away from him. At least for the moment.

Other than that all I can say you probably need consuling, and that he definitely needs to work on issues with professional help. But its not your job to fix him.