Is this a warning sign?? Confused....

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Haven't posted in awhile, but there's this guy that I like. I met him at semi-formal 2 months ago when his group of friends came to dance with our group. We kept making eye contact but neither of us said anything. A few weeks later, I ran into him after school. He approached and asked what grade I was in and he walked home with me and we started talking. He seemed really nice.

We didn't see each other for awhile. I was on Instagram and I came across his profile in the Explore tab. I followed him. He later followed me back and msged me. He asked me if I wanna hang out sometime. I said sure, and we arranged details. He msgs me that mornig saying he couldn't make it(didn't say a reason). I said maybe another time. He said yeah for sure. He msged me again to reschedule. We did but I had to cancel cuz I had plans I forgot about. A week later he msged me saying we should hang out the next day. I said sure. He msged me later saying his mom was sick and he couldn't have anyone over. I said okay but I'm confused if he even wants to or if he is just making excuses. He apologized profusely in his msgs but I still don''t know. Should I not hang out with him or should I give it another chance?

give it another chance. there's nothing to lose.

He rescheduled twice, he initiated the planning of hanging out twice = that guy likes you, period.

So I don't think there's any reason to get worried, people who flake never reschedule nor initiate anything.

*If* he really made up an excuse then it would be he isn't feeling confident or got scared ir nervous in last moment, maybe it's his first date at his age; but he certainly likes you.

Btw, in that case, you should initiate now, the ball is in your court, go...ask about his mom, initiate something, don't stick to gender roles - don't just be the reciever, that would make him more nervous and doubtful.

Nope...not a warning sign. The guy likes you.

I'd give it another chance...I mean what is the worst that could happen? Sometimes stuff does inconveniently pop up in what seems to be an excessive amount to get in the way of things people trying to arrange meeting up, weird coincidence or the world playing tricks I couldn't say.

I mean I suppose if it keeps up and it goes over a month of the guy having an excuse 'every' time then perhaps move on...but thus far, he's only cancelled twice and you also cancelled once. I'd be more concerned if you guys had gotten intimate and since then he's had an excuse every time since that usually means you were getting led on until they got whatever they wanted from you.

The fact that he initiated to reschedule twice indicates he is sincere that he wants to get together with you.

Just sounds like a few bad coincidences happened in a row! definitely one not to turn back on

If your patience allows, I would definitely suggest rescheduling with him. Apologizing profusely is just another way of saying, "I really like you, please please please don't hate me for dropping the ball."

(Off topic: Anna_K, would you mind enabling private messages on your profile? I've finally gotten around to reviewing your work, but due to persistent CAPTCHA issues I'm unable to directly respond to you on the original thread.)

Yeah, this seems pretty normal.

I've been trying to make plans to see someone, and our schedules keep clashing - but I know we both still want to hang out.