Sexual compatibility or common interests?

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Would you rather have a partner who is sexually and sensually compatible with you, or would you rather have a partner who shares common interests with you? To put it another way, would you rather have someone you can have a satisfying physical relationship with, or someone you can have an interesting conversation with?

I would say I value sexual and sensual compatibility over common interests. For one thing, I don't want a girlfriend begging me for sex (I'm functionally asexual and a voluntary celibate), nor do I want a girlfriend who is so touch-averse that she'll get uncomfortable if I start cuddling with her. For another thing, women who are into math and computers tend to be homely-looking and boringly studious; that's just my observation.

I choose neither. I'm not willing to compromise.

I think the stereotype you mentioned also applies to men. Wouldn't two "homely-looking and boringly studious" people go well together?

If two people are only interested in each other because of sex, it gets boring REALLY fast.

I'd rather have common interests with a woman. This would ease the way towards sexual compatibility if we are not already sexually compatible.

Sexual compatibility of course.

New interests and hobbies may be learned/acquired - much easier than turning from non-sexual compatible to sexually compatible.

You need a degree of both, unless the relationship is purely physical or strictly platonic. Most people need both sexual satisfaction and an avenue through which they can connect with a potential match.

I cant vote because I'd be willing to compromise some & I care much more about having physical affection & emotional intimacy instead of sex or common interests.

It doesn't matter. Nobody would ever want to be with me anyways.

^^^^how do you know this for a fact?

I didn't vote because I would never want relationship where I didn't have both. It's not something I'm willing to compromise on.

Everyone out of family I talk to I make them uncomfortable by simply interacting with them.

it is not impossible that somebody outside of your family would find you to be perfect for them. with folks like us, it is a matter of frequency and numbers- there are relatively few folks like us on WP, so we just have to search harder and longer.

It probably wouldn't be reciprocal though. I don't want to be with someone I don't care about.

there is a possibility, since you are young, that life will throw you a pleasant surprise while you are still young.

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A lasting relationship just cannot happen if we don't mesh well sexually. Sex is extremely important to me and if I can't share it with my significant other in a satisfying way, it's just not going to work out. At least if our interests are different from one another, we can teach one another about new and interesting things we didn't know about before! If I was with a person that liked sports, they could teach me how their favorite sports work and what it is about them that they like, and I would support them. Just the same with me teaching them about all of my favorite comic books and video games and how fun they are. Sharing interests is something that can be built, but if you aren't a sexual match, there's no way to force that.

You can't get very far without attraction. Unfortunately a lot of us can't get very far with lack of common interests (which quite often I'm not particularly optimistic that two people will simply copy each other on how they'd choose to self-actualize simply because the they find their partner hawt - it works in theory and fuels the divorce industry in actuality). Particularly those of us who are properly 'odd bods' so to have one or the other without both is something of a mutually exclusive zone.