Too fast!

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I had the first date recently earlier this week and it went really really well, more so than I expected really. We just made this instant connection and although she's a retro collector, I'm a retro computer game collector and we both thought that was awesome. Now the worry is setting in, the second date is coming tomorrow and if I texted as many times as she did to a woman on a first date, it would scare any woman off. She even called not long after the date apologizing for being a bit excitable as she was nervous. Which I didn't mind really

But next day she texts asking how I was, did I have a good day, and then to call me asking about if we are going for food after the possibly fun second date!

My warning signs are that she is getting too clingy, too fast and It feels more like a relationship already than just a first date. Usually I'd walk well away, but I really like this girl in person, there is an attraction there, and she loves gaming as do I - Mum says I should go with it, but be careful and be the leader, don't let her lead me...

Thoughts? ( I've been hurt twice by dates I've rushed straight into )

ps she texted again an hour after calling saying sorry for bugging me, of which I said to slow down it's only our second date coming, and she should hide the phone somewhere and await the second date laughs:)

Just take it easy, and like you have done let her know what you are comfortable with and what you want to do. It sounds like she is rather nervous about this whole dating thing!

True!

Although I suspect she is autistic, going by her collection and certain things she has in common with a member of my family who is also autistic

If she is, that wouldn't bother me at all!

My thoughts: it shows she's interested, which is a good thing. Just let her know that you'd prefer to ease into things a bit slower. I've found that it's far better to be with someone who shows a little too much interest, than someone who doesn't show enough.