Putting People on Pedestals

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I've just been thinking about this and a big problem that can come about in stalling our lives in one place with relationships is putting the other person on a pedestal. They are amazing, you love everything about them, they are your soul mate, no on else even comes near to them.

On the other hand if someone puts you on a pedestal, that can be very frustrating, it feel like they don't see you as a fallible human, just as an object of desire and that can actually hurt. It's like they don't really value who you really are.

That may be what people mean when they talk about being too desperate or clingy. It's like your revolving your feelings around an ideal, rather than having real feelings for who the other person really is.

Found this video and thought it hit the nail on the head.

My ex did this to me, and the minute he felt let down by me the whole relationship dynamic changed. We ended up splitting a few months later. He has since found out he's on the spectrum.

I don't mind to be worshiped on a pedestal.

I would demand offerings.

I've approved you, hence you deserve my offering which is two slappings your ass.

^ Ewww

^ Was that too much? I'm basically a newbie, give me many many more second chances. *cutie smile*.

You slap my ass and yet you go eww over calling you Romeo?

I have done this throughout the course of my life, however, NOT for the same reasons that are being mentioned in this thread. I have NEVER put a love interest, nor a person I have been in a relationship with, on a pedestal, at least not in that regard. I have found that it happens, solely, when I am interacting with a person who I perceive as having an extremely high level of intelligence. If said person does become an interest of mine at some point, they will remain there, solely, based on the high level of intelligence they possess. ha hah. I have never understood why this phenomenon occurs, but, throughout my youth, especially, throughout the course of Jr. high school and high school, I would look up to, or feel slightly intimidated by people that were significantly more intelligent than myself. Especially, males for some reason. I have never made a connection as to why this is. I know that I admire this trait in others, but, why I do this, I do not know.

^To clarify, I am actually extremely attracted to highly intelligent people. What I had meant was that, I dont put people on pedestals, for any other reason. I hope I didn't offend you or anyone else, by the way I worded my post and I hope I have clarified what had initially written. I think the confusion may result from you perseiving what I wrote, from ia negative standpoint, however, that was not how I meant it to read. Thank you for trying to understand. I hope you do.

Oh, sorry. I must have misunderstood you. Crikey. I thought you had thought that I meant something negative. I misunderstand most things initially, and I tend to frustrate others to no end.