I've been called a 'child woman' (rolls eyes)

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Yes, I been called a 'child woman'. 'Adorable' 'wildchild' 'a darling' etc etc while all the time I'm trying to be a badass sexy b***h. What am i doing wrong?

I wouldn't like you if you were a badass sexy b***h.

I would like you if you were a darling.

How old are you?

im 36!! !

I see you're new to the site, so welcome!

I'm not sure what "child woman" refers to. Might be a regionalism I'm not familiar with. The closest comparable term I can think of is "Manic Pixie Dream Girl" (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Manic_Pixie_Dream_Girl). Could that be what they were thinking of?

@whirlingdervish You look like my kind of woman. Shame you're so far away though.

Anyway if you think you should change, I don't think you should unless by "childish" people mean you have no autonomy and responsibility over your own life. Then you must improve.

Cheers.

It seems to mean "cute" in her post because she's contrasting it to "sexy whatever".

Cute often refer to "soft beauty" unlike "sexy" which often refers to a "wilder" version of beauty.

I dunno.

Must admit that I have never actually heard "child woman" uttered either. The folks around her probably mean that she lacks fashion sense, or is childlike in demeanor.

From my male pov its not obvious why she would wanna be a "bad ass B" (doesn't sound any more desireable to me than it does to Krafty).

But from imagining the female pov I think I get what she means.

Sounds like the OP yearns to be a threat to her competition (other women), but instead of viewing her as "bad ass" the competition just sees her as harmless, cute, and amusing (that would be maddening). So maybe you (the op) should go to the women's forum to get fashion advice.

Eh. Just embrace who you are.

I'm 52 and look very young for my age. I'm also short with a small frame. I was called "cute" not too long ago. The person who said it was nice, but I felt like a little girl being patted on the head.

I think what i feel bad about is that i totally completely absolutely lack 'guile', which is a very useful seduction technique that i have studied other women employ. Usually if I've ever like someone, I'm the sort of person who would be quite naive about it. Id be more likely to just tell a person I'm attracted to them and bear my soul to them, pretty trustingly.. of course if I'm moderately sure they at least reasonably like me. Luckily i have a pretty good instinctive understanding of who to trust, so haven't been hurt too much, but i feel I'm missing out on that whole 'mysterious female aspect' of my gender.. I'm not sophisticated is what i think people say when they say child woman.. it kind of pisses me off, because i have borne and continue to bear responsibilities above and beyond my capacity sometimes.. I know other women who are more 'female' than me who actually get off responsibilities by playing 'vulnerable', something i hate myself for not being able to pull off, and as a result , have an easier life....So umm, yes, its about me being 'childlike' in terms of trustingness and openness as opposed to being sophisticated, which i personally find sexier? i mean, only paedophiles would find 'children' 'sexy' .. eeeesssh