Describe your love life.

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My love life has just taken on a new dimension of sweetness
And maybe some sweatiness later on.

^^^

cheers to you too!


To the hope that we will find someone as weird as us!

I feel the same way, I had a moment of doubt with one girl - but then my stance was confirmed. Tired of fickle people trying to use me, not even bothering to find out who I am (I could be a bad person or be a massive slut with 6 partners of various sexes and be the fount of several sti's within the city!).
Then again, others simply write me off early. So I guess there is nothing worthy in my mind after all

As for you others talking about fast metabolism. Based on my observations many men are slim when they are young (<25).
Recently I sold all of my weights collection. I no longer need them, walk lots, in preference to bus. The main key is 12 chin ups 5 days a week. I could have gotten larger with the weights, but I don't want to and it would have a bit uncomfortable in my shirts. Presently I'm starving (not by choice), and I'm happy to say the muscle has for the most part remained - stopped doing chin ups, too busy.
I'll resume once my financial/food situation improves.

I feel like that when trying to make friends the girls at my new job are the outgoing types and I'm not like them. I couldn't force myself to go to the Christmas party, I would have been so bored.

Office Christmas parties are fun. All you have to is talk to people, eat unhealthy food, get drunk and then talk to people more. If you get on with your colleagues talking to them in a social setting will not be difficult.

Describe your love life? Okay .... over.
We've been together for a long time but in reality we live in separate worlds. To cut a long story short, he physically withdrew and my reaction was to emotionally withdraw. This spiralled out of control and we both avoided tackling the problem.This was complicated by my unusual emotional state as an Aspie. I'm sure many of you will associate with this, but I am usually trapped in my own head. My recent diagnosis has helped me to start putting this into some kind of perspective.

I've never been through this before and I find the rapid cycling of emotions crippling. I actually had to research what some of the feelings were. I've identified them as rejection, anger (sometimes for him and sometimes for myself .... wtf), self-pity, jealousy, envy (of his ability to connect, socialise and bond with others), humiliation, hopelessness and, strangest of all, arousal. The last few weeks have been exhausting. One day I can barely function; I can spend the day in a pit of depression, getting tearful randomly. I NEVER CRY, at least not at the things that upset everyone else. My default emotional setting is usually 'Spock'. An NT friend called me at work regarding something totally unrelated, and I want to pieces.

Conversely, yesterday I could have broken the warp barrier. Over stimulated does not cover it. I blitzed through my usual work load, got home, cleaned the house and even socialised with friends! However, I was so elated I had a "what the f**k" moment when my partner came home. I unzipped my brain emptied the contents. Raw thoughts and feelings (or what I laughingly consider feelings anyway). One minute I'm telling him that I love him and the next minute I told him that he's a deceitful lying alcohol soaked P'tak that is too cowardly to admit that he's not physically attracted to me anymore. I even mentioned my diagnosis which, until recently, I've kept to myself. I've labelled this as my brain dump.

My NT partner who normaly has an answer to everything (socially well adjusted bast**d that he is) was dumbfounded. He asked for time to process the information. HE needed time to process the information, that's usually my line.

I could never say this stuff to others. I'm new to social media and despite my reservations, I've found I can communicate this stuff. Apologies if this sounds like a load of dingoes kidneys but I'm following a therapists advice to "try to verbalise your cognitive and emotional state".

Enough for now. My circuits need some cool down time.

You have just described everything I hate about parties. I am the type who hates small talk. It's so boring. I'd rather be at home doing something interesting.

Serial monogamist.
At some point my partner realizes 'she's too weird' and cheats on me/starts behaving in a nasty way/controlling/using way -> I break up (even divorced once), which is a pretty common pattern in my life. There's always a talk about expectations I can't fulfil, 'you're like a robot', 'you don't give enough', 'you're bad at communicating your desires', 'you rarely reach out'.
So... not a massive source of happiness, my love life :/
We'll see how it goes with my current boyfriend, who's not diagnosed with anything, but slightly autistic himself (a few people pointed it out to him, but he doesn't want to consider it at all). I'm quite happy on my own anyway, so it's not like I have a pressure inside to find anybody.

Chaos