To all the bitter men

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I do my best to bottle up my bitterness. Letting it loose will only hurt my relationship prospects. Instead I just keep trying to find a partner again, and again, and again. I will keep doing so until I succeed.

It's why I have hobbies that I enjoy. Making things is definitely more satisfying than doing nothing and feeling miserable.

What kind of things do you make, if I may ask?

Hoo boy... I'd rather not type out a couple of pages. But suffice to say I've taught myself a LOT of skills and llearned to work with a LOT of different materials (fabric, wood, plastics, titanium, etc)... at the moment, I'm building my 3rd guitar... never had much luck working with glass though...

What do you make with fabric?

Shirts... pants... bike shorts... carrying bags... printer covers... I haven't done a suit but probably could if I had a pattern.

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ya everything that happens in life falls on the guys shoulders

Actually, it is fairly common for women to date/marry younger men. With the current dating culture there are younger men who want older women who are more interested in relationships than many younger women are. And since a lot of women look younger, it isn't really that noticeable that they have an age gap. But for people who are older they either have to look young/attractive, or have money/power. Most people date within +/- 5 years of their own age. Also within the same level of attractiveness, and socioeconomic class. People who are attractive and/or rich have the advantage of choice, most people are average though. Movies, TV, and celebrities give people a false sense of what happens in the real world.

I don't think men have it easier, or women have it easier. It depends on the circumstances. Attractive people have it easier. People with social skills have it easier. People with money have it easier. A lot of things are based on luck (how/where you are born). If you are average looking you can become more attractive with effort. If you are not rich you can make more money (although unlikely to become rich). You can learn social skills as well. It just becomes a problem when people seek out others who have more advantages, and then are unhappy that they can't date people higher than they are.

If someone keeps meeting the same type of person (that they feel is bad), it could mean that they have a type that they pursue, or they attract a type based on certain behaviours.

There are pressures for both sides. And we just keep fighting each other when we are all people.

Whatever.

Ha ha, I was eye rolling at that too.

Everything? Really. Phah!

He is probably Atlas.

ah that explains it

One thing that has always shocked me about the UK is how horrible people can be to each other there. So I think for you, there might be a big cultural element in the way you are being treated.

As an outsider perspective, I perceive all Anglo English-speaking cultures, the UK, US, OZ, and NZ as one big same mega-culture. Same language (with slight dialect differences), same values, similar art works and music types, same many things; the differences overall are slight despite distance. The similarities outweighs the differences.

Arab cultures for instance are by far less homogeneous than the Anglo cultures; historically (descendants from too many different ancient civilizations) , linguistically ("Dialects" differ a lot, it's more than just simple 'dialects') , artistically (music and others), social values (Look for example at the women in Saudi Arabia vs women in Tunisia or Lebanon or even Egypt), and even political values wise. The differences are very striking, hence unity is impossible in my opinion.

US AUS and UK culture is very different. In the UK being loud or talking to strangers is seen as weird and uncomfortabke whereas Americans don't seem to see it that way. Also apparently cat-calling is a thing in American and it doesn't happen here. Plus the whole guns being restricted thing. People thing guns are banned in england but that isn't the case.

If you ever meet a passionate aussie or American they will be pissed at being called something else. Even in the UK there are massive differences between English, Scottish, and the Welsh.