Its awkward at work and I am considering quitting!

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We were not friends outside work but we were friendly towards one another when our path cross. I just wanted things to go back the way there were and forgot it never happened but I guess once you cross that line the dynamic changes forever

It depends on the person, there's no universal rule about that.

Fine, his behavior is awesome and perfectly mature because some women would react in a similar way if they experienced the senerio of someone they aren't romantically interested in but are otherwise friendly with giving them their number. It would be inappropriate to just be honest that you're not really interested, best to make a gigantic deal out of it, switch job departments and act extremely frigid around them.

I don't care what the gender of the person is reacting that way over something like that, I still think it seems immature. Besides giving someone your number and leaving it at that gives them the option if they want to call you or not...its not like you're demanding they go on a date with you.

Honestly, I don't think It's a coincidence that only the ladies in this thread attacking the guy, I believe there's a gender bias going on here. But you will deny this anyway.

I am almost 99% sure that if genders were reversed in the very same story, and the OP was male and the one acting standoffish was the female; you, Chronos and Lululululuh would be like "You must be doing something to make her feel uncomfortable, stop talking to her! She doesn't want you!".

But of course, you're all gonna deny this now and be like "no, It wouldn't make any difference, we would have said the same".

I see nothing wrong in this behavior, it's normal that he would interpret her friendly behavior as a re-attempt to ask him out (and women do that a lot with guys who they asked out before, a lot!), he's just making her understand that he's not interested.

If I was the OP, I would tell him "Look you, no need to be rude and mean with me- I am just trying to be normally friendly, don't ever think I am still interested in you - I like another guy now".
^^ This is what I did to a woman once who was acting the same; and she apologized to me for misinterpreting me earlier.

I think it's silly to quit a job because of that.

Attacking? I said I think the way he is behaving is immature...as it seems like he can't handle someone giving their number if he's not interested in them. I'd also find it immature if the O.P was male and this was a female who did this to him.

Why do you assume if someone criticizes the behavior of a male they wouldn't criticize the same behavior from a female?

Because it happens all the time, and you specifically do it a lot (like when I posted chat screenshots about some women behavior, and as usual you took it as an attack at all women, and (as always) you turned to the Knight of Venus mode, plus you accused me of fabricating) . Anyway, I don't want to derail her thread by talking about this here, it's off topic.

No need to whine, I never said such things. I was simply pointing out that this behavoiur is not so uncommon among women, which you seemed to think.
Btw he didn't switch departments, his position expired and he had to change shift.

I made the mistake of asking out a girl I worked with who made things very awkward for me. I did custodial stuff & she started having alot more spills that I had to clean up. I didn't talk to her unless i had to & tried to avoid her as much as I could. Eventually she quit to join the marines. I'm not saying if you should quit or not but thankfully I wasn't around her much so I just sucked it up when I was. Thankfully other women I worked with who I asked out were a lot nicer than her after they rejected me.