Hi everyone, looking for advice and opinions!
My ex partner and I have both been diagnosed with ASD since splitting up nearly a year ago. We were together for nearly 10 months. I have one son, he has two. He was going through his divorce settlement at the time we were together, plus we were trying to 'blend' a family, needless to say it was an extremely stressful relationship at times - add to it that we were both undiagnosed Aspies, and actually had no clue either of us were at the time.
So, it's nearly been a year since we split (I initiated it because of his behaviour with other women - flirting, texting inappropriate messages etc. Which he wouldn't acknowledge was wrong, but has just recently acknowledged this) and we text nearly every day still! We've seen each other a few times since (we live an hour away from each other). We sometimes have sex. We're not "friends" in that we don't treat each other like we treat our other friends. We fight a lot because of our unresolved issues but he doesn't seem to want to resolve them. If I don't text him he'll get in contact and vice versa. We definitely still care about each other, and there's feelings there. But we seem to be at an impasse as to how to categorise each other. We've hurt each other and said nasty things in anger but we're still the one the other runs to if we have something we need to vent about. NTs would have walked away but the NT rules don't seem to work for us. I'm 29 and he's 38. Do we need to cut contact once and for all? After everything we've been through it seems like such a waste. When we get along we're like two peas in a pod, when we fight it's awful. I'm prone to meltdowns whereas he's prone to shutdowns.
09 Feb 2017, 12:37 am
