Jealous of friends.

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I never thought I'd ever say this but I feel some jealousy of both of my best friends for picking up on two girls who are three years older than us and are themselves best friends. I knew I was sort of the odd man out initially and I let them make their moves. But that isn't why I am jealous. One of the girls isn't really into men that much and even told me she wasn't interested in being in relationships in general. So I said alright, that's cool. She then waits a week and out of the blue asks my best friend out. I'm not bitter about the experience, but yet I can't wrap my head around as to why she would say she wasn't into relationships only to get with my best friend a week later.

I'm 22, don't have a car, but I have a license and can drive really really well. I have experience in dating yet no one wants to date me because I lack both a job and a car. And obtaining those things are very difficult. I want to do so much more yet I've hit a roadblock and time is being wasted. So maybe that's why I wasn't selected or perhaps I wasn't like him.

Am I being hard on myself?

I know that, and I know that she went after my friend because she feel comfortable around him. Which I can respect. But the question remains, am I uncomfortable?

If it comforts you at all, you're not alone. My best friend has been in two long-distance relationships before, and I was jealous of him both times. Granted, the scenario is a whole lot different, but it's similar enough in that I've been jealous of a friend too.

I wouldn't go as far as to say your chances are non-existent just because you don't have a car or a job, though. Trust me, there are girls out there that don't mind that. The way I see it, girls who look into that as a basis for a serious relationship are superficial and not worth it either way.

I know exactly how you feel. my roommate/friend is usually able to hook up or get a girl very easily, and he's a shy person at times himself but still a bit braver than I am.

I on the other hand haven't had that luck, not lately atleast. I know it sucks, believe me but you will find someone one day. There are girls out that that won't care, as another user above me said. It's just a matter of figuring out where to go and being there at the right place and right time.

Thanks guys. I wouldn't say its entirely superficial, as much as its a necessity. You need those things to be productive. And I merely can't sustain that, so I'm not exactly high on the totem pole. It sucks but I need a job, preferably full time, but I'm the sort of person who hates dealing with people or bosses. Never had any success with it and I would rather be my own boss. Unfortunately, that's unattainable too, because I have to prove myself that I can negotiate.

It seems that I can never fit into an organization because I've never been able to fit into anything in my whole life.