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28 Feb 2017, 3:09 pm

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be glad you have had a relationship before


What if like me you haven't?



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28 Feb 2017, 8:58 pm

hurtloam wrote:
WantToHaveALife wrote:
be glad you have had a relationship before


What if like me you haven't?


i'm guessing you are in your teens?



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01 Mar 2017, 1:39 am

WantToHaveALife wrote:
hurtloam wrote:
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be glad you have had a relationship before


What if like me you haven't?


i'm guessing you are in your teens?


I'm 35



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01 Mar 2017, 3:52 am

I wish I become teen again.



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01 Mar 2017, 4:01 am

^ if you could go back, knowing what you know now, what would you do differently?


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01 Mar 2017, 10:59 am

Hmm... well... I would change my looks and go to gym and start martial arts much earlier; to focus on the dating much earlier - I didn't make a significant effort (dating and lokks) before 28 and this was wrong; I missed out an important learning curve which is hard to be acquired late. I advice teens here to practice dating early.

And I would go for a different major in college



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01 Mar 2017, 6:00 pm

I wouldn't like to be a teenager again. It was too stressful. Mid 20s would suit me.

I don't think I would be able to do anything different. I tried and tried to find a boyfriend from my mid teens onward and was not successful. It's not like I didn't make an effort.



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03 Mar 2017, 6:25 pm

hurtloam wrote:
WantToHaveALife wrote:
hurtloam wrote:
WantToHaveALife wrote:
be glad you have had a relationship before


What if like me you haven't?


i'm guessing you are in your teens?


I'm 35


really, so 35 and never had a boyfriend?



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04 Mar 2017, 8:04 am

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I wouldn't like to be a teenager again. It was too stressful. Mid 20s would suit me.

I don't think I would be able to do anything different. I tried and tried to find a boyfriend from my mid teens onward and was not successful. It's not like I didn't make an effort.
Awwwww

Even though you started earlier than me.


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04 Mar 2017, 8:05 am

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And I would go for a different major in college
Why? It's pretty cool that you can develope Android games?


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04 Mar 2017, 10:22 am

WantToHaveALife wrote:
hurtloam wrote:
WantToHaveALife wrote:
hurtloam wrote:
WantToHaveALife wrote:
be glad you have had a relationship before


What if like me you haven't?


i'm guessing you are in your teens?


I'm 35


really, so 35 and never had a boyfriend?


That's nothing, one of my best friends is 40 and never had a boyfriend. We have each other at least. It's not really the same though.



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04 Mar 2017, 12:29 pm

I tho I if you feel like you can't be happy and single, than its probably got nothing to do with being single. I was a lot happier when I just talked to my close friends than I am now, engaged with no friends......maybe it just takes being with someone to see that I dunno, but I kind of envy the single aspies out there TBH.



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04 Mar 2017, 12:47 pm

humansynrome wrote:
I tho I if you feel like you can't be happy and single, than its probably got nothing to do with being single. I was a lot happier when I just talked to my close friends than I am now, engaged with no friends......maybe it just takes being with someone to see that I dunno, but I kind of envy the single aspies out there TBH.



Why don't you talk to your friends anymore? Why are you still engaged to her if you're not happy?



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04 Mar 2017, 1:14 pm

RetroGamer87 wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
And I would go for a different major in college
Why? It's pretty cool that you can develope Android games?


Umm....well, I developed this skill this thing very late. My background isn't computer science; and now it's so hard to penetrate the android/apple game market unless you have a team or extremely multi-talented (not only in coding, but also in designing, animation...etc), you need a whole company/a whole team with a whole budget(with artists, digital marketers, musicians...etc) to even generate some success.

Here, this explains my case very well:





You checked my last beta? I am thinking to make it totally ad free this time, this will attract more people. It's in my signature.



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04 Mar 2017, 4:14 pm

Yes, but not everyone. Some people feel perfectly happy single and simply see a partner as an addition to their life. There are just as many people that do not feel complete when single and see a partner as an integral part of their life.

I think the whole "everyone can be happy when single" is bogus. Different things make different people happy. There's no magic recipe for happiness that applies to everyone.



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05 Mar 2017, 12:39 am

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Yes, but not everyone. Some people feel perfectly happy single and simply see a partner as an addition to their life. There are just as many people that do not feel complete when single and see a partner as an integral part of their life.

I think the whole "everyone can be happy when single" is bogus. Different things make different people happy. There's no magic recipe for happiness that applies to everyone.


You have a point here. It is so clear about my friends. I know this girl who also have ASD and hearing loss like me she kept having 'boyfriends' one after to another in extremely short-term. It nothing casual dating/sex. It about status, like your point saying about 'filling'. I have been single for whole life so far and I am 26. I am totally fine between being single and having a lady partner. My future goal is to get married and have a family, so later on worries me which is good and healthy approach.

Rebound relationships are never good to your mental health.