What do you believe makes you unattractive to others?

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Spending too much time posting in forums due to loneliness
and spending too much time on the internet in general

The fact that I'm an aspie and I get repetitious and that I get excited easily esspecially when I see something that happens to be one of my obsessions. I'm a grown man that acts 10 years younger than his age group and that I don't have a career established due to constant moving and college off and on. I still watch cartoons anime and play videogames. I am an otaku. Also I'm shy in person and have a low self esteem at times even though I have women approach me all the time and hit on me and I don't catch on right away and when I do its too late. Emotional scars from an abusive relation ship as well as physical scars.Long periods of depression. Oh yeah when I actually am in a good mood I get hyper and act immature. I don't think women find that attractive at all.

I am an elitist jerk, who 'Acts stuck up' I presume because I enunciate and don't swear... and I get loud when I get excited... and due to past experience with girls approaching me and sporting with me at my sisters urging.. I tend to automatically become flippant or distant when approached by one now. It takes a very persistent woman to get me to actually talk to her... unless she's online and then I have no problems... and tend to be very interesting until she actually meets me in person and then the loudness thing usually causes problems.

For me, it's a combination of many things almost exclusively related to Aspergers:
* Blank or Super happy expression depending on mood
* Extremely introverted and prefer being alone most of the time
* Been told by a few women I can look like a stereotypical pedophile when I don't shave or grow a mustache (and I enjoy being around babies and toddlers and would love to work in childcare so that doesn't help). I can only imagine the false rumors that have been spread especially since I am a bit of a loner.
* Prefer the company of children, teenagers or seniors
* Very quiet unless my special interest is discussed
* Can act very child-like and 'free spirited' when I'm happy
* Have a very nasty temper
* Night owl but don't drink or party
* Rigid routines
* Very friendly and ultra sensitive but extremely tall and learned to put on a 'tough guy' front
* Socially awkward with no friends (outside my current GF and her friends)
* Too honest for my own good (couldn't lie to women at all to get them attracted to me)
* Find it hard to stand upright
* Completely oblivious to flirting (even my semi-Aspie father ridicules me for that) which is seen is disinterest (in fact by GF was sure I was not into her until I did something crazy and planted a kiss on her)
* There was a malicious rumour that I was a closet homosexual and since I never had a GF until recently, many women falsely assumed I am gay
* Lacked self-confidence and constantly cut myself down (having it done for years to you causes enormous emotional scars)
* Good looking but TERRIBLE acne even as an adult
* VERY direct and don't play mind game which scares many women

Before last year, you could have added (but not anymore):
* Lived with parents
* Never kissed or touched a girl

-Awkward
-Inability to flirt
-Shy
-Sometimes dark humored
-Too blunt
-Being mistaken as rude due to poor social skills
-Intimidating to no known reason, maybe by coming off as cold
-Too damaged

I'm a manly looking man and I completely despise the pretty boy look. Most women I meet who are my age like that skinny boy, hairless, tight jeans and a shirt look that I just can't get into.

I don't smile much or do chit-chat.

I think I can be a bit too full-on at times. I tend to really feel my emotions and become very enthusiastic and animated about the things I enjoy (this includes people), and perhaps come across as a bit too excited. I've no doubt that some people find this off-putting.

You know, there's something weird about women in that matter.

It seems (I am theorizing here) that disclosing their preference toward smooth/hairless guys is something of cool - hence why you hear a lot of girls in public saying they prefer a hairless/smooth man and saying eww about the hairy body, to the extent you start wondering if hairy-lovers even exist!

While the preference toward hairy men has become something of a taboo; girls/women who like hairy men are much less likely to say so in public - as if they're afraid to be ridiculed or seen as backwards by their female friends...something like that.

Through dating websites, I found out that those who like a male hairy body are very very common, even a lot of them see it as very masculine/attractive. In fact I encountered online more of them than those who hate it, especially those who are closer to my age.

Yea yea...they are that weird of a community!

my "uncanny valley"-ness- no reception/transmission of body language.

I learned not to spit in a kitchen sink at the age of 20 or so.

my inability to conform to the ways of this $#!++? little world.

My weight
My not wearing make up every single day
My awkward shyness
My depressing

Do people really care about makeup?

Definitely.

Pretty much everything about me makes me thoroughly repulsive.

You have a loving partner, no? Clearly you're more attractive than you give yourself credit for.