How many of you are adults and have never had a girlfriend?

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Hello,
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I'm a borderline case- 26, had a girlfriend for 2 months at 15 that went nowhere at all. I've been on 1 date on OKCupid in the past year but nothing more. At times I feel like I wasn't meant to ever have a serious relationship.

39 and never had a girlfriend. I was a very late bloomer physically and I was mistreated coz of it. It messed me up, especially how I was treated from 16-21. I looked all of 14 to 15 max at age 21. I was 5'9 and 127lbs at age 20. I Was made to feel ugly, puny and worthless by just about every girl I showed interest in, as well as strangers calling me some nasty names. I adopted the lone wolf mentality and gave up trying to fit in.

I ended up filling out to 165lbs by age 25/26. I had sex twice at 27 and once at 30 - both were foreign women. Nothing since, pushing 10 years now since I had any intimacy other than the odd Escort.

I'm partially to blame as I give up too quickly on online dating and don't have any other outlet to meet women, as I have no friends/social life.

I feel you, man. I'm not an ugly 20-year-old, (but not handsome) though I am fairly overweight (250 and 6 feet, though around 40% muscle so I'm not a wimp). Very proficient at guitar, I feel like I'm very intelligent on a wide variety of topics, can write very well, has a nice car and can drive it (a milestone for Aspies), and I feel like I can be funny and make people genuinely laugh. And I just don't have any luck with women or making friends. Frankly, I worked out most of my Autistic tendencies and I try to stay hygienic.

I mean, it feels like my lack of relationship experience indicates that either this description of myself could be entirely wrong and my view of myself is seriously warped, women don't find these traits attractive, or that women can just detect that s**t from a mile away and not want anything to do with me because I suck at making connections and the lack of social skills makes you unattractive. I have a feeling its a bit of all three, more so the second one.

Either way I gave up on trying a year or two ago and started focusing on a career in radiology. If I were in your position I would play to your strengths and try again if you feel up to it (or don't, I sure don't plan to).

I'm 25, never had a girlfriend per se but have had many very close platonic friendships with women which occasionally got really close to relationship status, three brief romantic and/or sexual flings in the past 5-6 years, and have dated several women including at least three dates this past year. I'm not worried about dying alone anymore. When it's meant to be, it will happen or as Green Day says, "you can't go forcing something if it's just not right."

29 never had and now it's too late for me.

Never had a relationship and doubt I ever will.

I am almost 34 (May 4th), and I have had only 1 girlfriend since high school. Last time I had sex was at 18. I really don't have any experience at all myself. I am trying to find myself a woman, but I'm just not having any luck. 3 women so far have totally rejected me this year, and it's really starting to effect me emotionally. I try to tell myself good things about myself, but it just doesn't work that well.

I've also been trying to find women on dating sites, but again, not really anything yet.

im 23 never had a girlfriend for some reason women really don't like me or i don't know how to act while around them. i try to be sweet to them and act in kindness. i try this many times but it ends in failure for now i need to find a job and maybe a woman might be interested in me but who knows.

I'm 26 and never had a girlfriend. I am very socially active person in community and groups. I have good job, an apartment, car, travel experiences, welfare, wealth, family and quality of friends. I am still curious why women never like me yet. I find it so weird they dont know how to act around me.

22 here (coming 23 in about a month), never had a girlfriend. I used to metaphorically beat myself black and blue over the whole thing, but over the past few years, I've learned to stop caring too much about it. I do hope I get to experience a relationship at some point, but even if I don't, I'm not going to complain. After all, as a single dude, I have certain degrees of freedom that people in relationships don't.

10 years later and still don't have one but I really don't care. Seems stressful more than anything.

Can I contribute? 35, pretty much given up on ever finding anyone that will be girlfriend/boyfriend type of person with me. I'm just too weird.