When a guy care enough to ask your name..?

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So this guy who works in different departments with me always make eye contact and we say hi to each other in the passing.Last time he came in on my floor in the kitchen looking for cup,we exchanged pleasantries then I went to clear my tables. While I was doing that he came back around again and we chat up.Then he was like I will talk to you later.After about 10 minutes he came back again and we were just talking about general stuff about how long he has working for the company etc.He didn't have a reason to be in kitchen with me other than just wanting to talk to me. Then when he was leaving he asked me for my name and said he wanted to look on my name tag but didn't want to be weird and it could seem like he was staring at my boob.Does he have interest ?I don't want to read too much into this but the only time I care enough to ask a guy's name is when I have interest

Maybe, but sort of hard to say he might just be being friendly as well, if you guys usually say hi and make eye contact he might just see you as someone to socialize with. I'd maybe just give it a little time see if he interacts with you more and if he asks for your number or anything like that.

Although your co-worker might have been being polite, do not make a big fuss about this because it's obviously unclear how he will react the next time the two of you see each other.

That's sounds weird but maybe this guy (whoever he is) has social anxiety & just wants someone new to talk to for once, you should ask him if he's disabled or not & at least learn to accept it with empathy not just for pity. If he says something weird like "The only reason I ask to see your name tag is because I don't want you to think I'm seeing your breasts" he probably has social problems, but unless if he starts acting inappropriate & acts like a creepy pervert.....that's where you shouldn't talk to him. But if he's wanting attention from someone then try to comfort him during break times & see whats up, & if you don't know how to recognize signs of someone with social anxiety...here's a link to help you understand. I hope this comment helps, & good luck to both you.


Link: http://www.wikihow.com/Recognize-Social ... y-Disorder

There's almost no question that the guy is interested in you.

Are you interested in him?

i'd assume he is interested in you based on your understanding of his behavior.

its not bad to be cautious about assuming interest.

but i think its very likely he is.

You don't ask people who are almost strangers if they're disabled unless it's absolutely obvious and you know they're aware of it or you want to insult them. There's nothing in the OP to indicate that he's likely disabled.


Yes, that sentence is weird but a single sentence someone said doesn't usually tell you much about them, especially if you don't know how they said it.
It might have been a joke. We can't really tell without tone of voice and facial expression.
He might have said something out loud he didn't intend to. Though I guess most people who have a name tag would assume he's looking at the name tag and not at the breasts. But still, if he was nervous, it's possible he was too careful about what he does but slipped up about what he said. This doesn't require mayor social problems.
But yes, if he is often inappropriate and acts like a creepy pervert stay away from him - I just don't see that much in the OP to indicate there's a great risk of him being a pervert.

Okay first off I'm sorry if you thought my comment was messed up & rude (I was just trying to be helpful), & second off when you said you don't ask people who are almost strangers if they're disabled unless it's absolutely obvious & you know they're aware of it or you want to insult them. There's nothing in the OP to indicate that he's likely disabled. Yes I see your point but I wasn't saying go around your work place & ask every person if they're disabled, I was literally refering to a guy asking the person for her name.....literally just the guy who was socializing with the female employee. She could politely ask if he has a disability & if it offends him then there's probably no point of talking to him then if he starts to act rude about it, but it shouldn't offend him if somebody asks him politely if he's disabled (unless if certain people like him can't help it then its understandable).


That is true not knowing if a weird sentence was a joke by a tone of voice & facial expression, the only reason I would assume it would probably be social problems is because I've said some stuff that was weird & some people probably didn't know I had social problems with a disability. Its sometimes hard to recongize signs of people with social anxiety &/or disability like you comprehended, but you gotta be polite about it if the person has had social problems in the past & didn't have alot of friends....not knowing the person very well is sometimes hard to study. I hope my reply helps you understand.

No, I don't think your comment was rude. I just also don't think that asking people if they're disabled is a good idea unless you have good evidence that they might be.


I know you were only talking about asking that one person whether he is disabled. Still it's a person they don't know very well and there likely isn't very much that indicates that he is disabled (if there is, that's a different story and it might be a good idea to ask).
The problem is, if you ask a person who is not disabled or doesn't know that they're disabled whether they are disabled, they might get angry because they might think you're being overly critical over one small thing about their demeanour or you concluded for no reason that they're stupid (if they think you mean mentally disabled) or they simply think you're intentionally insulting them.
If you're being polite they shouldn't think any of that but it might still make them wonder what they did wrong to seem disabled and if they're insecure you might hurt their self-esteem.


That's true. Still, if someone has social problems they'll repeatedly say weird stuff. That's why I'd not necessarily assume a person has bad social skills if they once or on rare occasion do it, especially if there could be a different explanation.
If someone talks to someone for the first time they are interested in it's not too unlikely that they are at least a bit nervous and nervous people sometimes behave a lot like people with bad social skills. (if he even did seem that weird, it'd depend on how he said it)
I'd just wait and not bring it up at first and only ask if over time there is more and more evidence that the person has social problems.

Based on that why would he act like a creepy pervert...if anything it seems he's probably more shy/cautious about showing interest and being intimate. Also probably nervous and didn't really 100% think it through but wanted to say something to remain friendly.

I didn't say he does. I said he likely doesn't.

Yes I am