Alliekit wrote:
rdos wrote:
I know exactly how it works naturally. No dating, no conversations, and a lot of nonverbal communication (ND style, of course). Can be done IRL or online, but it should start IRL, because you cannot communicate nonverbally online. Online you primarily should use hints and monologue, never conversation.
Sharing interests, political views, religion or fashions has no place in ND "dating". It works best if people have no idea whatsoever about each other's social position and cultural preferences.
You also need to have a different time-perspective compared to NTs. A real ND relationship never comes about before you have known each others for several years. It shouldn't because the getting-to-know each other phase is extremely important, pleasant and essential for creating a strong attachment.
Please stop speaking for all NDs. You really think people who stuggle to read body language would date only using that?
I claimed in the second sentence: No dating. In the same sentence, I also claimed I referred to ND nonverbal communication, not NT nonverbal communication. At least to me, it is pretty clear that NDs generally struggle with NT style nonverbal communication, not ND style nonverbal communication.
Alliekit wrote:
Stop painting us all with the same brush
Dito. I never claimed I referred to everybody on the spectrum, rather to the natural way ND relationship preferences worked. It might not be the way you work, even if you have been labelled as autistic.