How can I end my ramace with a co worker ?

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I've been involved with a co worker who works in different departments from mine.I didn't want to get involved at work but he gave me his number and him and I started texting.However,a week into talking,he drops the bomb ..he tells me that he has 8 months twins and is working towards being single.I asked him what he meant by that ..he proceeded to tell that they still live together but not really together and they are trying to find ways to split without having full impact on the boys.He told me that he wanted to be honest and upfront.

I believed him which wasn't smart of me.Now its becoming more clear that he has no intentions of leaving his partner .He just wants to hook up in his office and in the woods close to or workplace on his break times .He won't see me outside work hours or weekends. He claims that it is hard because of his kids.

I want to end it because I'm falling for him and i's getting harder not being able to spend real time with me.I also don't want to be in other women..It's just not working out for me...should I sent him a text ending it

This guy is a pig. But the problem is really yourself. Don't bother saying anything; he knows. Also he sounds like a power-tripper so he might try to get back to you. Block him on every device you have. Be alert to the possibility that a new "friend" might be him again - block. Do not use social media at work at all, ever. Make sure you are never alone, just casually reach out and take somebody's arm. Do not communicate with him! Concentrate on a world without him - it sounds like you're going the other way now.

I believe you should send him something saying the relationship just won't work out under the "conditions" (his marriage/relationship, the twins).

And that you don't want him contacting you any longer.

You have to document, in writing, that you want nothing to do with him in no uncertain terms. This is so he doesn't harass you in the future.

You have to have certain proof that you told him, in no uncertain terms, not to contact you.

What I said sounds really, really cold. And I would feel really bad if I was sent this sort of message. But I would, intellectually, understand the reasoning, and I wouldn't be mad at the lady. Just sad.

But...to prevent any doubt, and for legalistic reasons, I would do this. This would provide you with a "leg to stand on" in case he really starts to harass you.