How to get boyfriend & mum to meet when he's shy.

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I've started seeing a guy I met on the net. We're getting along fine. He's not diagnosed but we both think he's on the spectrum somewhere. I am diagnosed as Aspie.
He's so timed & shy but my mum wants to meet & know him. My mum's come out to the car to say 'hi' but he just retreated & mumbled. Now my mum isn't impressed so I feel in the middle as my mum is a big part of my life but I do like him & I don't want to feel like I'm leading separate lifes. So what help I'd like is suggestions on how they can meet properly & get to know one another. As I doubt he'd go out for a meal where he's put on the spot or at least feel like he is.

Find out where he's comfortable. A place where he feels himself and is fully accustomed to. Whether that be his house, his place of work, a park that he likes, etc. Then try to set up a meeting there. Like if it's his house, stage an invitation that you and your mother go to his house for dinner. Something like that.

We are creatures of habit. We don't do well in new settings, new people, etc.