Is there any dating sites worth my patients?

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I used several sites in the past. Never ended up meeting anyone in person. From my own experience, and after hearing the experience of others (males and females) who used the same sites, there are 3 common types that you will most likely get matched with: Damaged Goods (won't stop obsessing over their recent breakup; very bitter), Good Time (only wants sex, nothing else) and Newspaper (too many issues to count, can also be Damaged Goods). I definitely do not recommend dating sites. Sure, there are people who rave about how amazing PAID sites can be, but don't bother. My cousin got her now-husband off of a paid site and he uses her for her money; immediately quit his job and makes her foot the bills.

Well I met my boyfriend on Okcupid...so that's two of us that got success there. Certainly can't guarantee anything but it is possible to meet someone on there. Every guy from there I met before him didn't end up wanting anything serious so its not like I put up a profile and instantly got a boyfriend...I went out with a few other guys over a period of a few years, most of which where a waste of time till I met my boyfriend.

I would advise against making a profile and obsessively checking it and spending hours on it a day dwelling on if you haven't got responses/messages or not. Best to have it up and just check periodically..as a potential way to meet someone, don't check it all the time and see it as you 'have' to find a relationship in a given amount of time on there...or else its completely hopeless. Never judge your self worth on how much attention you're getting on a dating site....way too many factors involved to do that. Of course more bubbly neurotypical people may get more attention...but that doesn't mean there will never at any time be a fellow outlier women you could run into who you might click with.

I still like OKCupid, but maybe my experience is different as I'm asexual and open about it on that site. I'm not too bothered about relationships at the moment and use the dating site to just befriend people (again, I'm totally open about it to avoid wasting people's time) and connect with other asexuals.
I still get messages from folks who only look at photos without reading the profile info and react with "ohhh babe can you handle a hot Italian?" or "xx hi I'm Tracy, I've always wanted to do it with an older woman xx" *facepalm*. Apart from that, I've spent long hours talking to people I met there, went out to countless cinema meetings, ale drinking sessions, shared interests meetups... Who knows, maybe I'll find myself an a-sexy partner there one day

Here is a technique that iv used to get chicks online. Go to facebook find 10 chicks in ur area that you find attractive or have common interests or likes. Send them a pm saying " You look familiar have we met?".To be honest only 1-5 will reply but most chicks know thats just a way to start a conversation because ur interested. Any chick who replies its safe to say is atleast a little interested in you and if they willingly open a dialogue you know they are. After this keep the convo going as best you can and flirt when you think it appropriate and your on your way to getting a female. This has worked very well for me anyway hope it helps.