Will I have to become what I hate?

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I could get shredded sitting all day on my ass in a couch. You just need to eat less calories than your body needs, so that it taps into your fat stores, focus on protein and nutrient dense vegetables.

A nice lifehack, is starting every morning with a kale shake.

The recipe I use is this: 8 large kale leaves, 4-6 rainbow chard leaves with stems, 3 cups (~710 ml) of baby spinach, 2 medium to large carrots, 1 tomato, 1 large avocado, 1 banana, 1 apple, 1 cup (~710ml) of blueberries (fresh or frozen), 1 tall shot glass of flaxseed (optional), and 3 cups (~710 ml) of unsweetened flax milk.

One portion will last me three days, and is is easy to store in the fridge.

I’ve done water fasts before. Keep that up for around two weeks and slowly reintroduce food, I recommend going vegetarian for a few weeks, and you can lose massive weight by basically doing nothing. Not a good idea for diabetics. I’ve done 2 fasts for 40 days each. 2nd time around killed my muscles, and I had no idea that was happening, since the first one went smoothly and I wasn’t all that weak at the end. The 2nd time, though, I bounced right back after a couple weeks.

Consistency is key to diet and exercise. I’ve been tracking how quickly I adapt to weights, and it’s looking like I won’t be increasing my weights for another 2 months. I’m also not seeing any visual signs of increased muscle mass. But keeping things challenging and doing it without injury take a lot of time. If I can work out on dumbbells and get up to 30 lb. by the end of the year, I’ll be happy.

Goals are important, too. This week I start training for my first half marathon. I’m behind schedule due to illness, so I don’t have high expectations. As long as I don’t hit the wall I’ll be happy. I felt great after my first 10k, so now my focus is on seeing how much abuse my knees can take. I’m rock solid on cardio and have a high tolerance for pain.

And I’m ready for it to hurt. What will absolutely kill your workout is when you let the pain get to you before your body adapts. Your heart will try to pound its way out of your chest. You’ll feel like you’re going to vomit. I always feel like I’m coming down with flu. But if you can stick with it for a good hour, allow for preparation and warmup, push a little harder than yesterday, and keep moving through you’re cool-down, you’ll be amazed with what you’re capable of in just two weeks. I’m not a personal trainer and I don’t use one, but that’s just been my expereince. You can always do much more than you think you can.

Last edited by AngelRho on 09 Jan 2018, 2:43 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Depends do you hate becoming fit.

You have the power to change this. It is something you NEED to change. Whatever it takes, get your mind to understand that failure is NOT an end. The most successful people in the world talk about the value of failure in getting to one's goals. Everyone fails. It is what you do after that failure that determines whether or not you will find success in life. Perhaps if you start small and build up you can retrain your mind in this area. Or put up signs and reminders so that you start to at least try beyond the first failure. I am insanely stubborn; I NEVER stop trying to figure out how to succeed at something I really want, no matter how often I fail. Where there is a will there is a way, I do believe that.



You can put yourself in situations where meeting someone is possible, without actively looking. Obviously you can't meet someone if you never interact with people, so you go out and interact with people. When you open up to the world connections get made, and those connections may eventually bring you to the right person. I've dated people clients have introduced me to, people I've met on public transportation (just being willing to engage in a conversation with the person near you, regardless of whether or not you are interested in them), and friends of friends or relatives. I married a guy my sister was friends with. We didn't date until two years after she introduced us because he just wasn't in the right life space, but I never stopped being nice to him despite figuring he must not be the least bit interested. When he was ready, he asked me out. Pleasant surprise!

My therapist gave me some homework on mindfulness as a final task for our sessions. I tend to think I will need a break from the forums to focus on it.

Sounds good. Hope to not see you for a while then

Do you mean it in that you hope I will be able to change my thought processes?

i know what i've become...something that i don't hate:an aspie with plushophilia .it may freak the daylights out of people amongst family & friends the moment they see a giant teddy bear,giant stuffed tiger & giant stuffed gorilla in my bedroom,but it's worth the sex

You said you needed to take a break from the forums and focus, so I've essentially wished you success with it.