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Was going take lady to park walk Friday but it’ll rain so i dont know what to suggest now.

It’s one of the most depressing days of the year for me. Oh and my birthday is in the same month and so over shadowed. But hey another chance of going out on the same day I came in is coming up. It’s be poetic. Soon work will be decorated in hearts and love stuff, and everyone will be talking about ther romantic vday plans.
3 years of this

Today I skipped breakfast in antipaction for it. They brought home, bbq chicken and potatoes and rolls. I got sick. Seems I can’t eat as much as I use to. I got really bad heartburn. I should just eat a little and throw it away but it’s hard.

Why buy you cake if they hate you? Cakes are expensive

I think Sly rather complains about women in his same condition looking down on him, that's the "hypocrisy" he talks about. Not that I agree with him, as I explained earlier.

I believe that a good part of getting thinner is taking one's responsabilities, so if you buy sweets blame yourself, not the companies for selling it at half price.

Do you own, or can you borrow, a large (golf?) umbrella? Could walk pretty close side by side under one of those.

Portion control is still a challenge for me sometimes, especially when I'm stoned.

Things I do that help:


Only cook up enough for one meal so I can't overeat (or if batch cooking, split it out into containers right away)

Drink a couple glasses of water so I'm fuller feeling already

I remember what more than minimal carbs does to me & I don't like it, so I'm usually able to minimize carb intake - but that's a challenge sometimes, especially during the Christmas holidays

I take a look at the protein I'm eating and visualize approx what 26g of protein would look like as a portion (or check a label and do the math) and then don't eat any more than that, as we can only absorb up to 26g of protein every 2-3h. I'll save the rest for another meal 2 hours later and get the nutrional benefit of it vs. excess protein just passing through my digestive tract w/o building any muscle mass for it. If the entire world ate their protein this way we'd kill a lot fewer animals, and in turn wouldn't grow so much grain to feed them etc etc - wasting protein, especially animal protein, by eating too much of it at a time, is very costly to the environment. Also, we'd all build stronger leaner bodies, too.

Why would you ever throw food out? Unless maybe it's REALLY unhealthy stuff you don't want around, but like extra chicken?? No way!

And of course I try not to have stuff around I shouldn't eat so I don't get tempted, but again, harder during the holidays.

I don't eat chocolate because I'm a low sugar eater, there are whole isles in the supermarkets that I never go down. I also have very bad observation skills and yet I noticed that the chocolates were on the best offers on mass. These are not the Christmas leftovers (they've all gone super cheep but I expect that) this is the all year stuff with used by dates in 2019. eg matchsticks normal price £2 Nov price £1.25/£1.50 Dec price £2 now £1. Why, because this is when people try to brake their bad habits and they don't want that.

Exactly, we don't know. Maybe he will, maybe he won't. He doesn't know either and that's a good enough of a reason for him to worry about the topic. (Sorry RetroGamer, we probably shouldn't be talking about you like this without you having a part in the conversation. I'll shut up now.)

But we were talking about which is worse, never being loved/having loved or being loved/loving and then suddenly losing it... weren't we? I asked that if you've never lost someone you love then how could you know for sure which is worse? I mean personally I've lost someone I loved (not romantical love) and when I say lost I really mean it; the one I lost died. That was years ago and while it was horrible, I've gotten over it. However, if I hadn't managed to get over the loss then I would probably be wishing that I had never met that someone, for while we had our happy times, the grief brought by death hurt. So to be tormented by that grief for a long, long time vs. never getting a chance for that grief since I didn't love anyone...? Well, all I can say is that the pain of the first is horrible, while the later just tends to make me feel numb most of the time. But of course that's just me, others may have different experiences.

And since people here are talking about the Valentine's day... heh, good to be a Finn. Here it's called "ystävänpäivä" which means "friend's day" so while there's heart shaped chocolate at stores and all that the romance part about it isn't really that big of a deal here... or at least I've never seen anyone make a big deal out of it.

When I was a kid, I used to feel exactly like Charlie Brown when he never got a Valentine's Day card from the "naturally curly" girl.

I used to metaphorically "wait by the mailbox."

Ask her if she'd mind the rain? Bring a couple of umbrellas? (or one big umbrella for you to share! lol)

You could move the walk to a mall or museum, or some other large sheltered area?

Hopefully you don't have to cancel! Good luck!

I thought it was the red headed girl? lol

I don’t have any umbrellas. It rains here 80% of the time, so most people here just wear raincoats.
Our mall got turned into a shopping center so there’s no inside anymore. We don’t have museums lol. Yeah i dont know I haven’t replied to her cause I have no idea. I can’t afford to buy dinner for me and her or just me. It’s end of the month so I’ve already spent my extra money. Make matters worse I take bus so where I can go is rather limited. There’s a actual mall in next city but I can’t get to it as the bus lin s don’t run to it anymore. They’ve cut back nearly all other bus lines to pay for their stupid trans like bus system. It’s “faster”cause it doesn’t go to 3/4 the stops the old line did

Well I think the dates off now that she knows I don’t have a car.

While that’s a pretty big one you can’t rectify with the snap of your fingers, what it is is just one more thing to take note of that makes you a less attractive date.

Like retro said, why not start focusing on the things that make you “undateable,” and one by one, but by bit, change & improve them all?

Time is going to pass anyways. Your efforts will make a greater impact improving yourself than trying to start a movement to convince women to give “undateable,” guys a chance.

I’m not joking or trying to annoy you. I’m being completely serious. Diet/exercise & weight loss are a good start, but you’ve got a lot to work on still. Depression would be my number one focus if I were you. Once that’s under control, everything else will come easier.

Hopelessly is right-----it was the "red-headed girl"

Because they unchangable. I can’t work full time and I can’t afford a car because I can’t work full time.
Why is taking the bus seen as so bad, but in big cities most people use the Tran or subway?