Why I think I would be a good love partner

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29 Jan 2018, 7:50 pm

I would say many religions consider suicide a "sin."

I believe, from a Buddhist/Hindu sort of viewpoint, it screws with your "karma," somehow.

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29 Jan 2018, 8:18 pm

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If accepting my current situation is the key to being in a relationship, just how long will I have to accept it and where can I find a relationship?

I don't think you need to accept your current situation so much as learn to do the best with it.

I don't know enough about your details to get more specific with action plans, but I've taught my kids to keep looking until they find acceptable options.

One idea for you right now that you might be able to leverage is researching Anime conventions and groups. There is a whole social world connected to that interest that you don't seem to be tapped into yet. Don't do this thinking "this is how I will find a girlfriend;" do it thinking "I need broader social outlets and this one would make me happy."

Anime clubs are supper common at schools and colleges, too. Don't forget to check junior colleges. You can always enroll in just one fun class. Just enough to connect you to the school clubs.

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30 Jan 2018, 3:25 am

kraftiekortie wrote:

I would say many religions consider suicide a "sin."

I believe, from a Buddhist/Hindu sort of viewpoint, it screws with your "karma," somehow.

The 'karma' is that afterwards everyone would say 'why didn't she say she wasn't happy' and I wouldn't be able to say 'I did! I did!' because I'd be dead.

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30 Jan 2018, 11:18 am

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Marknis wrote:

If accepting my current situation is the key to being in a relationship, just how long will I have to accept it and where can I find a relationship?

I live in a very sick city. It's polluted with people who religiously watch football, gab about cars, and fanboy over guns. Most of the hangouts are at crappy dive bars.

The local junior college does not have an anime club. In fact, they don't have any interesting clubs at all. I tried to inquire about joining a club and the club coordinator (In reality, a lazy woman who just sat in her office all day) told me she wouldn't open any unless I went around and asked people if they were interested but that was impossible to do because most people on the campus were just staring into their cellphones. This is partly why I dropped out of college.

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30 Jan 2018, 8:21 pm

Marknis wrote:

DW_a_mom wrote:

Marknis wrote:

If accepting my current situation is the key to being in a relationship, just how long will I have to accept it and where can I find a relationship?

Yet you cannot be the only one who feels out of place. The question is how to reach the others. How would you feel about posters saying "Anime Club, anyone interested in forming one please email X." Use a special new club email address so you don't have to mix emails in with your personal ones. Inevitably there will be some crazies to sort through. If you can find some interest be careful to choose a PUBLIC and safe first meeting location. Women won't come to a private home or other private location if they don't know anyone.

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30 Jan 2018, 8:50 pm

sorry this is random: what anime is your icon from?

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30 Jan 2018, 8:57 pm

DW_a_mom wrote:

Marknis wrote:

DW_a_mom wrote:

Marknis wrote:

If accepting my current situation is the key to being in a relationship, just how long will I have to accept it and where can I find a relationship?

I am not in college so I can't really try that. That woman actually started some clubs which were NAACP and LULAC ones but kept balking at me. She thought I was probably a redneck and Christian Trump supporter and didn't need any help but that isn't true. Despite being white, white Christians hate me the most. Before anyone cries "Racist!" at me, I am not saying those sorts of clubs shouldn't exist. All I am saying is that people should be judged as individuals and not by ethnic groups.

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sorry this is random: what anime is your icon from?

Neon Genesis Evangelion but I am thinking of changing it because I am getting sick of being accused of being a fanboy of it. I just don't know what to change it to because I can't relate perfectly to any other character.

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30 Jan 2018, 11:27 pm

Marknis wrote:

Hopelessly3 wrote:

sorry this is random: what anime is your icon from?

Ah, I've heard of NGE! (the manga, but it's been a long time :lol:

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Have you seen death note? I've seen a few users on here that had "L" as their icon :lol:

because L is like the ASD hero :heart:

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30 Jan 2018, 11:34 pm

Hopelessly3 wrote:

Marknis wrote:

Hopelessly3 wrote:

sorry this is random: what anime is your icon from?

Ah, I've heard of NGE! (the manga, but it's been a long time :lol:

)

Have you seen death note? I've seen a few users on here that had "L" as their icon :lol:

because L is like the ASD hero :heart:

.....

I tried reading Death Note but I just couldn't get into it.

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31 Jan 2018, 11:12 am

Reading through this thread, and I'm seeing a similar theme I see with these threads: you are blaming everyone and everything but yourself. The only person who can change your life is you, and if you wait for the entire world to change for you, you will be waiting forever. So the question is - do you want to be happy enough to take responsibility for these issues, or do you want to continue moping, waiting for the rest of the world to change to fit you? Its your life and it's 100% your choice.

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31 Jan 2018, 11:26 am

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Blame myself? I should start saying the bullies were right to treat me poorly just for being myself?

I realize that my thought processes haven't helped me for nearly 12 years now but I haven't been able to convince myself that time hasn't run out.

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31 Jan 2018, 11:33 am

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No, I'm saying you can't keep blaming them. Regardless of why you have problems or who gave them to you, only you can fix them.

And yes, you do need to take some of the responsibility. Your excuse for not starting a club is that people are on their phones too much. Come on.

While we're at it - people do not want to date a guy who feels sorry for himself. They don't want to date a guy they have to "fix". When looking for a partner, peopoe want someone who has their life together and doesn't wallow or dwell on the past. I'm sorry if it seems harsh, but its reality.

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31 Jan 2018, 12:50 pm

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Please hear me out. I did try to talk to others on the campus but pretty much all I got was "Oh, hey." and they went back to looking at their cellphones with uninterested looks. Someone didn't respond to me at all. I've had other people, including my ex-social worker, tell me they had similar experiences at the place. That college has a reputation for being underwhelming as far as the social scene there goes. It's very discouraging when you can't even establish a basic conversation.

I have seen relationships where both people aren't exactly all together. My first and only girlfriend certainly wasn't when we were together.

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31 Jan 2018, 1:23 pm

I very rarely come across anyone who has their life together and when I do I find them really boring.

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31 Jan 2018, 1:25 pm

I'm happy now, Fluffy!

I'm definitely not boring!

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31 Jan 2018, 1:26 pm