I think it's all about the Tomboy girls

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11 Sep 2012, 12:38 pm

Rorberyllium wrote:
Indeed, I misunderstood. I apologize. we're basically saying the same thing.

naw, i wasn't clear, so it was my mistake.


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11 Sep 2012, 5:49 pm

I'm not sure if my tomboyish personality facilitates my love life. I would say a definitive NO. That's a good way to make guy friends, but not boyfriends.

That's quite exasperating, since I never felt I had to take cover behind my gender to date the other one. Saddly that's not how people usually think. The world of dates is full of rituals and has its protocol, there are things that you can't say if you are a woman (or a man). It's all regulated.

I remember my first date. I was 13 and I wear a ponytail. My date said to me with a kind of seductive voice (he was 14 but he tried) that I would be prettier without that ponytail, then I said smiling "Oh thank you, but my hair is quite dirty today". His face was revealing, as he expected a feminine answer, something shy and cute. Two days later he dated my cousin, and yes, she has always a long and silky perfect hair, ha ha.

I like to remember the movies for kids of the eighties, the tomboy girls were pretty common then.


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11 Sep 2012, 6:25 pm

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I'm going to be proposing to a tomboy who's into In Flames and other metal, loves rough housing as foreplay, fixes things around her house, and then all of a sudden melts when I try to romance her (even if it comes across as awkward). She loves to wear black and either jean jacket or leather jackets. She always speaks confidently and always shows independence even when I want to be there for her. I think the best thing about her though is that when she melts into my arms, she lets me treat her like a queen even though she tries so hard to make it on her own. I can't wait to marry her.


That's beautiful mang :D


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12 Sep 2012, 1:45 am

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Gender is, after all, subject to both genetic and epigenetic factors. And since those of us on the spectrum often misread the intent behind these epigenetic pressures(ie we don't accept the idea traditional masculinity/femininity because it doesn't make logical sense to us), that can cause us to act in a way that does not synch with those expectations.

And even though we have yet to fully determine how strongly genetics determine gender roles, there is evidence that it plays a substantial part also.
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Er, because this seems like a site that would put up with nitpicking...

Epigenetic refers to changes in genetic regulation (i.e. methylation, DNA packing, acetylation, other histone modification.) It may not be genetic, but it's still a low-level biological thing. I doubt that societal pressure is methylating your DNA (well, perhaps through some massively complex hormonally controlled process.) At any rate, I do get what you're saying about societal pressure affecting gender, and affecting our genders less.


Thanks for the correction, sir(or ma'am)! I did indeed have the wrong word there.


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23 May 2018, 11:09 pm

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Perhaps tomboy=female aspie?


Oh PLEASE. No. Neither a necessary nor sufficient condition. Though there's probably an over-representation because of often being less susceptible to socialisation.



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24 May 2018, 7:53 pm

I also like tomboys.


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25 May 2018, 6:16 pm

My 2nd girlfriend was sort of a tomboy type. She had gender identity issues & wanted to be a man but wasn't planning to transition due to being scared to have the procedure done(afraid of hormone side-effects) & also she lived in Texas so she would of faced a lot of problems with family & society judging her & not tolerating her.
My current girlfriend is also kind of a tomboy type too. She says she's a tad more masculine than feminine & that I'm a tad more feminine than masculine. She does wear skirts/dresses & jewelry alot but she's not very interested in other girly things. She grew up with an older & slightly younger brother so that may be some of it.

I'm NOT gonna say I prefer tomboys or am more attracted to them. Most of the women in the porn I watch don't look much like tomboys. My celebrity crush definitely isn't a tomboy either. In real life most of the women I had crushes on were tomboys thou but I liked em because they were nice towards me. In some ways it seems like I'd be less compatible with tomboys because I'm not really into guy stuff & am very protective of women I love, do my very best to be supportive & take care of them & I'm also extremely affectionate. However my current girlfriend is a good match for me in those ways & she isn't a tomboy. It's just those things seem to be more common with more girly girls instead of tomboys but it's not always the case.


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31 May 2018, 2:56 am

Im not a tomboy but im just myself. Listen i do not like how society defines me as woman. None asked me if i like pink, fancy dresses, dolls, fashion magazines, make up etc. Foremost nowdays woman needs to have for pleaseing a guy: plastick breasts, pumped up pstar lips, best dont ever wear anything and do nothing but being a dumb shoping freak and instagram poster on the top of that being a cozzy matress when ever a guy needs it. GREAT not doing any of this means being a tomboy now. lol



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23 Jun 2018, 1:14 am

I'm neither a tomboy nor a girly girl despite hating sports and loving fashion and makeup. I like very dark vampy makeup as well as colorful fantasy makeup, as well as galactic and alien looks. I like Gothic fashion and very edgy clubwear as well, I am not into the whole wearing all pink and beachy looking hair and sun kissed glow with rosy cheeks. I like colorful wigs as well.