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15 Aug 2018, 2:55 pm

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About the hipsters, you said you saw a lot of them but do you think the ones you saw had plenty of money or a high status?



I dunno, but I bet they don't work in banks or large corporate because often those don't accept such looks, at least not in the 'front' positions ; I bet they're some type of artists ie. musicians, designers...etc.

I see them more often in the fancy areas though, and they're usually very fluent in foreign languages.



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15 Aug 2018, 3:00 pm

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No, he won't return her interest because she's fat AS THE RESULT of not sharing his passion.

Those passions take effort. A LOT of effort (often money, too but thats something else entirely)

So if someone is content to sit on the sofa watching TV or playing games every night, their body will reflect that. They'll be soft and flabby. They'll run out of breath trying to climb one flight of stairs.

It's possible that he may return her interest, but he's more likely to be interested in the more fit girl, because by looking at her he can tell she does not spend her every evening sitting in front of the TV binging on Netflix. AND she looks better to boot.

All this weird reasoning that doesn't make much sense just to try to say that people don't care about looks, why are you so hellbent on it? Appreciating beauty is nothing bad nor necessarily frivolous, it's normal. I know I enjoy good looks and I don't think it makes me superficial.
Just because someone is fat it doesn't mean that they are all day on the sofa playing video games, they may have very interesting, rewarding or demanding jobs or hobbies that happen to be sedentary and not require much physical action. Also a fat girl may share passions with a hot fit guy that don't revolve about fitness.



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15 Aug 2018, 3:01 pm

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I may be misunderstanding your words, but are you suggesting that the fit guy won't return the fat girl's interest because they don't share the same passions?


No, he won't return her interest because she's fat AS THE RESULT of not sharing his passion.

Those passions take effort. A LOT of effort (often money, too but thats something else entirely)

So if someone is content to sit on the sofa watching TV or playing games every night, their body will reflect that. They'll be soft and flabby. They'll run out of breath trying to climb one flight of stairs.

It's possible that he may return her interest, but he's more likely to be interested in the more fit girl, because by looking at her he can tell she does not spend her every evening sitting in front of the TV binging on Netflix. AND she looks better to boot.



Honestly, you're explaining things much deeper than the reality of things.

The reality is that Fit is more attractive than Fat. That's it. When for example a fit girl sees a pic of a fat or ugly boy on tinder she would be like 'eww' and swipe left, she wouldn't be like "oh I will reject this one because he is ugly as a RESULT of not taking care of himself enough...etc etc." ; and when she finds a hot guy she would be like "Oh, so handsome" and swipe right, she wouldn't be like "Oh I will accept this one because his good looks is a sign of his determination and hardwork....etc etc".

And yes in real life it's the same, instant yes or instant no.

When it comes to attraction, people go by instinct , which is instant, they don't make such verbose thoughts like how you put it.



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15 Aug 2018, 3:15 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Luhluhluh wrote:
Peacesells wrote:
I may be misunderstanding your words, but are you suggesting that the fit guy won't return the fat girl's interest because they don't share the same passions?


No, he won't return her interest because she's fat AS THE RESULT of not sharing his passion.

Those passions take effort. A LOT of effort (often money, too but thats something else entirely)

So if someone is content to sit on the sofa watching TV or playing games every night, their body will reflect that. They'll be soft and flabby. They'll run out of breath trying to climb one flight of stairs.

It's possible that he may return her interest, but he's more likely to be interested in the more fit girl, because by looking at her he can tell she does not spend her every evening sitting in front of the TV binging on Netflix. AND she looks better to boot.



Honestly, you're explaining things much deeper than the reality of things.

The reality is that Fit is more attractive than Fat. That's it. When for example a fit girl sees a pic of a fat or ugly boy on tinder she would be like 'eww' and swipe left, she wouldn't be like "oh I will reject this one because he is ugly as a RESULT of not taking care of himself enough...etc etc."

And yes in real life it's the same, instant yes or instant no.

When it comes to attraction, people go by instinct , which is instant, they don't make such verbose thoughts like how you're saying.


I'm explaining it as the "why." You're just seeing the surface level - hot guy gets hot girl.

Yes the hotter guys get the hotter girls. Yes the more attractive people get more interest. Yes, it's instinct because health and vitality signifies youth and fertility. There's an entire psychology behind selling hair dye to men and selling face creams to women.

And this is WHY it's instinct.

There's a reason for everything. There is nothing that is "just because." And if people understand the reasons why human beings respond the way they do, it's much easier to manipulate them in your favor and to help you get what you want out of them.


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15 Aug 2018, 3:20 pm

One explanation may be that they were encouraged to dress that way by their girlfriends. It is a lot easier to dress outside the norm if you have help from your significant other.



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15 Aug 2018, 3:24 pm

Luhluhluh wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Luhluhluh wrote:
Peacesells wrote:
I may be misunderstanding your words, but are you suggesting that the fit guy won't return the fat girl's interest because they don't share the same passions?


No, he won't return her interest because she's fat AS THE RESULT of not sharing his passion.

Those passions take effort. A LOT of effort (often money, too but thats something else entirely)

So if someone is content to sit on the sofa watching TV or playing games every night, their body will reflect that. They'll be soft and flabby. They'll run out of breath trying to climb one flight of stairs.

It's possible that he may return her interest, but he's more likely to be interested in the more fit girl, because by looking at her he can tell she does not spend her every evening sitting in front of the TV binging on Netflix. AND she looks better to boot.



Honestly, you're explaining things much deeper than the reality of things.

The reality is that Fit is more attractive than Fat. That's it. When for example a fit girl sees a pic of a fat or ugly boy on tinder she would be like 'eww' and swipe left, she wouldn't be like "oh I will reject this one because he is ugly as a RESULT of not taking care of himself enough...etc etc."

And yes in real life it's the same, instant yes or instant no.

When it comes to attraction, people go by instinct , which is instant, they don't make such verbose thoughts like how you're saying.


I'm explaining it as the "why." You're just seeing the surface level - hot guy gets hot girl.

Yes the hotter guys get the hotter girls. Yes the more attractive people get more interest. Yes, it's instinct because health and vitality signifies youth and fertility. There's an entire psychology behind selling hair dye to men and selling face creams to women.

And this is WHY it's instinct.

There's a reason for everything. There is nothing that is "just because." And if people understand the reasons why human beings respond the way they do, it's much easier to manipulate them in your favor and to help you get what you want out of them.



Your evolutionary explanation now has nothing to do with what you were saying before, you were saying that "A fit guy won't be interested in a fat girl , because the fat girl surely spends at lot of time on the couch".

Yes, it's true that there's an evolutionary reason for every instinct, but the creatures having them aren't aware of these reasons in their daily life.
Surely the deer going for the alpha stag doesn't think "I pick this alpha because he has the best genes for my future offspring" , her dna been shaped and evolved in a way to prefer the alpha stags, because this was the most successful variant.



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15 Aug 2018, 3:48 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Peacesells wrote:
About the hipsters, you said you saw a lot of them but do you think the ones you saw had plenty of money or a high status?



I dunno, but I bet they don't work in banks or large corporate because often those don't accept such looks, at least not in the 'front' positions ; I bet they're some type of artists ie. musicians, designers...etc.

I see them more often in the fancy areas though, and they're usually very fluent in foreign languages.




The artsy type, especially musicians, often find themselves with woman who are out of their league in the looks department -- even if they're not terribly famous.


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15 Aug 2018, 3:54 pm

this hipster look is getting more and more mainstream, it's not much a surprise pretty guys with fashionable style will be with pretty girls with fashionable style. probably ugly hipsters won't be with hot girls either. on average, people tend to pair with people with a similar level of attractiveness.



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15 Aug 2018, 4:45 pm

I think threads like this make some of the guys on here think that they don’t have a chance at finding someone. Not every woman is looking for some “hot” guy.


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15 Aug 2018, 5:14 pm

None ever said that in this thread, also we are showing guys that they can make it.



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15 Aug 2018, 5:25 pm

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I think threads like this make some of the guys on here think that they don’t have a chance at finding someone. Not every woman is looking for some “hot” guy.



Yeah, this thread is like so many I've read on WP, over and over. It's a cold, dead fish of reality slap in the face to so many who are struggling.

"Sorry! If you don't have a great job, a wonderful psychique, there's no way you're going to find a partner!"

There are many variables involved in successful relationships, from physical attraction, spiritual attraction, and intellectual attraction. The one common denominator of all those variables is confidence and independence. If you aren't happy with who you are -- and able to exist by yourself -- it isn't likely you will ever find a quality person to share your life with you.


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15 Aug 2018, 5:40 pm

Wow you people seem to have huge problems understanding what other people say, or maybe you use a strawman because you don't like what they say.



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15 Aug 2018, 5:46 pm

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I think threads like this make some of the guys on here think that they don’t have a chance at finding someone.

Only the guys who can't grow beards and don't own any plaid.


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15 Aug 2018, 5:50 pm

Peacesells wrote:
Wow you people seem to have huge problems in understanding what other people say, or maybe you use a strawman because you don't like what they say.


I dislike it when anecdotal evidence is presented as fact.

Appearance isn’t everything to some (or probably even most) women.

I’d most likely rather be with a nerdy guy because we’d probably have more in common. Yay for nerds!


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15 Aug 2018, 5:57 pm

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I dislike it when anecdotal evidence is presented as fact.

Appearance isn’t everything to some (or probably even most) women.

I’d most likely rather be with a nerdy guy because we’d probably have more in common. Yay for nerds!



l none ever said that appearance is everything,



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15 Aug 2018, 6:03 pm

Peacesells wrote:
Twilightprincess wrote:
I dislike it when anecdotal evidence is presented as fact.

Appearance isn’t everything to some (or probably even most) women.

I’d most likely rather be with a nerdy guy because we’d probably have more in common. Yay for nerds!



none ever said that appearance is everything,.


Doesn't seem like it although you do seem to be clearly attacking her which is not allowed.


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