"Girls go to the library to look for boyfriends!"

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I have no patience for them so even if they get tired of the jerks, I will tell them to take a hike because they pushed me away in the first place by calling me a "fa***t" for not being an iron pumping alpha male.

I would be open to dating someone from an East Asian, South Asian, or Middle-Eastern/Eurasian ethnicity but not only are they in the extreme minority in my area, they tend to stick to their communities and marry early. None went to the redneck school my parents made me go to so that didn't help me at all.

You could try going the mail-order bride route. Meet a woman in another country online who really wants to leave where she lives. I would of done that if I had the money & resources.

^^^THIS is why you’ll stay single.

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Where I went to school the library was full of people making out. Every once in a while someone would get caught going at it and then there would be strict policing. But when that went lax it would start again until someone got caught. Just like in the movies.

I've seen you post on here about your dislike of "fat" women while droning on about not excluding certain types of women for potential dates so spare me the holier-than-thou attitude. This is partly why I can't take any advice from you. It's ok for you to be specific about what you want in a partner but if someone else mentions what they want in a partner, you give them flak.

Your school is weird.

Cafeteria's 2nd floor was typically the place for making out. And the park.

Anyway, making out with a partner in a library is one thing, and finding a date in library is something else entirely. The latter does not happen.

My favorite library was the medical library in college, but it's about 600 miles away from me now. The best part was that the entire second floor was meant for serious study and conversations were banned entirely. They also had some really comfortable chairs.

Yes, it does. I picked up a girl while she was working at the library. She found something of mine that I’d dropped, got my number, ended up bringing it over to my place. We were making out by the end of the night. We eventually did have sex a few times. While the sex was great, we did eventually have to be honest and admit the relationship wasn’t really going anywhere. Plus, her fiance probably wouldn’t have liked it if he’d found out.

But yeah... it does sometimes happen.

Funny story...before my wife and I started dating, she did a partial strip tease for me in the post office. Apparently I’d said something naughty to her, so she decided as punishment she would show off her thong undies and not let me touch her.

They are two different things I know. The horny ladies I am talking about corner/seduce guys in the library. it was a weird school alright.

Other people would meet to make out in the corner that’s usually deserted. Until they put up cameras everywhere.

Then the deserted room behind the cafeteria became the common place to make out and then empty classrooms. Everywhere they thought was safe. But they kept getting caught.

But yeah the question is meeting guys.

You could easily meet someone at the library. That is if you talk to strangers.
It could lead to a date.

I'd probably go to the bar to look for a partner, I want someone who's a little rough around the edges

I live in the Bible Belt and the average bars here are dives so that wouldn't work for me.

Learn Arabic, move to an Arabic-speaking location, become part of the Qu'ran-belt instead.
Problem solved ! Life-partners are long-term-commitments. Show you can «commit» to at least something.

Dodger, you make an excellent point.

But I think what Marknis is trying to say is he wants this to be easy, or at least easier. Personally, I’m attracted to the idea of arranged marriages. My own kids are not allowed to date before they can take care of themselves. And I’m not alone on that point. I have a flute student who told me she wasn’t allowed to date until she turned 16.

I disagree with that, but the logic is rock solid. By 16, you’re old enough to drive and live mostly independently anyway. So hopefully you’re intelligent enough by that point to navigate the risks of spending time alone with someone. I don’t agree with it because I’d rather my kids focus on more important long-range goals without the distraction. At the moment we cannot afford ANY risks in our family, so we all have to pull together and make sacrifices, even if it’s only for a short time.

Arranged marriages are an excellent solution because, 1) it’s logically possible to arrange something between two kids who are compatible and love each other, 2) it unites families who approve of each other and are willing to work together, and 3) it provides a support system that helps kids learn how best to relate to each other in marriage, which can be weird and tough the first few years, and provide a safety net for the first few years of raising children.

I’m getting old, so to me, “kids” means “progeny” regardless of age. I don’t believe in child marriage, though I do wish it were easier to get married at reasonably younger ages.

This kind of thing would render Marknis’s problems a non-issue for sure.

The downside is how the system can be abused. There was a young lady here in WP from India once who was the victim of an arranged marriage. It boils down to, I believe, his parents arranged the marriage to make him a “real man.” He didn’t like being married, so he abandoned her. I think the whole thing was a ruse so he could use her for sex.

But if you could have a carefully controlled system of arranged marriage with safeguards against that kind of thing, I’d be all for it.

I worked in the University library while attempting (and failing) to get my teacher’s certification in music education. The top floor (which was the fine arts and music collection) might as well been called “the brothel.” Thing is, it was all the Oriental students that were doing the horizontal lambada, mostly in the meeting rooms.

What I going to say is more than likely going to get me reported, and likely banned. To be frank, I really don’t 2 pints of bull excrement. Why don’t you do like I always did when I was employed: find a place to live, lock all the doors, cover all the windows, AND NEVER LEAVE, EXCEPT to do grocery shopping, go to work, go to the doctor. DON’T EVER THINK OF SOCIALIZING OR EVEN FINDING A WOMAN! IN SHORT, BECOME A RECLUSE AND A HERMIT! I’ve been doing it for over 50 years. I’m totally miserable, but I don’t know anything else, and i’m Too damn old to start now.

Then again, I’m an as*hole in most people’s opinion, so ignore me to your heart’s content.

Your not going to get banned for posting advice that you follow yourself , your post does not break any forum rules ( as far as I'm aware ) , it may not be the best advice in the world and sort of defeatist advice but it is advice none the less. No ones advice should be ignore , all advice needs to be collated and you cherry pick what works for you.