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Sadly, yes.

And to be fair: http://www.cracked.com/blog/4-things-i- ... file-ever/

The problem isn't that all women are shallow idiots. Its that by my age the ones who aren't have no reason to still be single.

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At your age, most women (in my experience):

- have been married and divorced -- and are therefore more leery of men than they were in their 20s, OR...

- have been emotionally, physically, and/or sexually assaulted by men -- and are therefore even more leery of men than from just being married/divorced, OR...

- having earned university degrees and made their own fortunes -- and are therefore not interested in marrying "beneath their stations", OR...

- are married -- and are therefore dealing with husbands, kids, jobs, et cetera, OR

- are lesbians -- and are therefore not interested in men at all.

- are not attractive to most men (i.e., physically, mentally, emotionally, economically/medically, et cetera).

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Your opinions may vary.

I still see women with men who physically harass them and watch football over doing something special together. The men won't even let their girlfriends or wives have male friends. Even the women who say they are feminists let these men control them. It absolutely baffles me and it reinforces my fear that I will have to become like how my older brother used to be.

Why do you guys have a propensity to gravitate towards focussing on the negative traits? She's not with him for the negatives. It's the positives these women like.

I guess I just can't see anything positive coming from the "bad boys". They come off as bullies to me. They also do everything I was told not to do if I wanted a girlfriend even though the opposite has always been true in my reality.

When people make comments like this, I understand it's annoying and highly frustrating, especially when people initially say there's nothing wrong. What a contradiction! Personally, I would encourage the person(s) who made the comment to justify what they meant. They may not even be able to come up with a valid response! No matter how they respond, know that relationships go beyond what society perceives as "normal". People are different, Aspies are different and there's absolutely nothing wrong with that! It's called variety and if others want to mask someone's uniqueness, they aren't worth paying attention to.

So not all women are shadow idiots, just the single ones like me

You're in good company. Seems that applies to me too.

I hadn't thought of that before but it's true. When people really like someone they don't really notice the negatives.

Until they do, then the divorce happens.

-Won't trust weird aspies, therefore undateable.

-Really won't trust weird aspies, therefore undateable.

-Career-oriented people are shallow and boring, will always put their careers ahead of friends and family. Undateable.

-Obviously can't date a married person.

-Obviously can't date a lesbian if you're a dude.

-Asexuals belong in the friendzone. Undateable.

So yeah, dating in the 30s isn't exactly leaving too many desirable options.

I used to know someone who told me "Single people are cool." but she had a boyfriend. Going by her logic, that must mean she herself isn't cool.

Most women subconsciously enjoy the negatives - and are not consciously aware of it.

Divorce occurs when what little self-preservation instinct they have overrides their love for the abuse.