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06 Nov 2018, 9:07 am

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There is no collective NT thinking. All humans are individual and unique and have their own opinions. Aspies are socially awkward people that do not try to interact with others. Aspies spend most of his/her life rarely leaving his/her house is not going to be socially adjusted to interact with other people. The term Aspie is just a modern word to say socially awkward person that does not like to interact with other people.


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Actually, there is a sort of "common knowledge," or "hive mind," collective type thinking among humans. Many here have described their own experiences as feeling like they're locked on the outside of being able to tap into said collective knowledge in order to be able to just intuitively know how to behave and what to say in various social interactions.

Sure, humans are individuals.. but we can still be classified by groups. NT vs. ND is just one example.

Not all aspies are shut-in agoraphobic hermits. Maybe you are, but you certainly can't paint all of us with the same brush.

Actually, no. "Aspie," is merely a shortened form of "Asperger's Syndrome," which we all know is HFA. Social awkwardness is a main trait, yes, but it's not necessarily true that all aspies don't like to interact with people.



I agree with goldfish here.

@Aspie19828, go see North Koreans and tell me if there's no collective tendencies among humans.

Here a personal experience on collective cultural- thinking: Among ALL the Filipina /Thai/S.Korean women I have dated so far, they ALL dodge the sunlight while walking in daylight - when they have to walk under the direct sunlight I always find them using their hands or a magazine to protect their face. Sunbathing is widely hated among them and would use wide straw hats if they have to go to the beach, also they avoid wearing bikinis or any of the conventional swimsuits and prefer to wear t-shirt and shorts even when swimming and I bet it's for avoiding direct sun exposure on skin.

I recall in one time I was dating this thai woman, and we had to wait for the bus, so naturally I stood under the bus stop (its ceiling was colorless glass tho so It lets the sun light through) thinking she did the same, to my surprise she disappeared, I checked my surrounding and spot her waiting under the tree way back and I was like "but why?" and she was like "it's too sunny there!". :lol:

When I asked them why they are so anti sun, they're paranoid even from accidental exposure - and they all told me because dark skin isn't regarded favorably. Frankly, It's so scary how this particular behavior is replicated exactly the same in each East Asian woman I've dated (at least those whom I have went out with). This is one example of a non-individualistic particular behavior, this is a particular hive mind thing; and I can tell you countless of hive mind things, in each community/culture, you can see very frequent occurrences of same particular behaviors.



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06 Nov 2018, 9:26 am

Aspie19828 wrote:
There is no collective NT thinking.

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All humans are individual and unique and have their own opinions.

This is a very good example of collective thinking. Everybody thinks they are unique.



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06 Nov 2018, 9:30 am

314pe wrote:
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There is no collective NT thinking.

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All humans are individual and unique and have their own opinions.

This is a very good example of collective thinking. Everybody thinks they are unique.


You're Russian, right?

An example of a clone behavior I found among Russian women (I am not sure if it's relevant today, but it was so noticeable back in the day) : They all use ')' and '(' sometimes with more than one parenthesis to express smiling and sadness in texting (ie. "I am so happy )))))" ) , - I didn't understand why they didn't use the regular smileys or the : ) and : ( (with colon) as used by the rest of the world.



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07 Nov 2018, 12:45 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
314pe wrote:
Aspie19828 wrote:
There is no collective NT thinking.

Aspie19828 wrote:
All humans are individual and unique and have their own opinions.

This is a very good example of collective thinking. Everybody thinks they are unique.


You're Russian, right?

An example of a clone behavior I found among Russian women (I am not sure if it's relevant today, but it was so noticeable back in the day) : They all use ')' and '(' sometimes with more than one parenthesis to express smiling and sadness in texting (ie. "I am so happy )))))" ) , - I didn't understand why they didn't use the regular smileys or the : ) and : ( (with colon) as used by the rest of the world.

As you probably know, Cyrillic alphabet has more letters. To have room for them, both colon and semicolon where moved into the top row where usually digit signs are located. As a result, it's (marginally) harder to type those signs.

Although logically it should be easier. On English layout both parenthesis and colon reside on one column (i.e. same finger hits them), while on Russian layout different fingers hit them.



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07 Nov 2018, 1:28 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
goldfish21 wrote:
Aspie19828 wrote:
There is no collective NT thinking. All humans are individual and unique and have their own opinions. Aspies are socially awkward people that do not try to interact with others. Aspies spend most of his/her life rarely leaving his/her house is not going to be socially adjusted to interact with other people. The term Aspie is just a modern word to say socially awkward person that does not like to interact with other people.


:roll:

Actually, there is a sort of "common knowledge," or "hive mind," collective type thinking among humans. Many here have described their own experiences as feeling like they're locked on the outside of being able to tap into said collective knowledge in order to be able to just intuitively know how to behave and what to say in various social interactions.

Sure, humans are individuals.. but we can still be classified by groups. NT vs. ND is just one example.

Not all aspies are shut-in agoraphobic hermits. Maybe you are, but you certainly can't paint all of us with the same brush.

Actually, no. "Aspie," is merely a shortened form of "Asperger's Syndrome," which we all know is HFA. Social awkwardness is a main trait, yes, but it's not necessarily true that all aspies don't like to interact with people.



I agree with goldfish here.

@Aspie19828, go see North Koreans and tell me if there's no collective tendencies among humans.

Here a personal experience on collective cultural- thinking: Among ALL the Filipina /Thai/S.Korean women I have dated so far, they ALL dodge the sunlight while walking in daylight - when they have to walk under the direct sunlight I always find them using their hands or a magazine to protect their face. Sunbathing is widely hated among them and would use wide straw hats if they have to go to the beach, also they avoid wearing bikinis or any of the conventional swimsuits and prefer to wear t-shirt and shorts even when swimming and I bet it's for avoiding direct sun exposure on skin.

I recall in one time I was dating this thai woman, and we had to wait for the bus, so naturally I stood under the bus stop (its ceiling was colorless glass tho so It lets the sun light through) thinking she did the same, to my surprise she disappeared, I checked my surrounding and spot her waiting under the tree way back and I was like "but why?" and she was like "it's too sunny there!". :lol:

When I asked them why they are so anti sun, they're paranoid even from accidental exposure - and they all told me because dark skin isn't regarded favorably. Frankly, It's so scary how this particular behavior is replicated exactly the same in each East Asian woman I've dated (at least those whom I have went out with). This is one example of a non-individualistic particular behavior, this is a particular hive mind thing; and I can tell you countless of hive mind things, in each community/culture, you can see very frequent occurrences of same particular behaviors.



The wealthier they are, or want to appear, the more they do that here, too.

It's because, in their culture, if you have a suntan it means you're poor because you have to work the fields. If your skin is very pale, it's a sign of wealth/being upper class who have the privilege of avoiding manual farm labour.


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07 Nov 2018, 6:53 am

I think Boo tends to interpret any cultural characteristics as collective thinking.
In a sense, culture is a kind of collective thought.


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07 Nov 2018, 7:50 am

magz wrote:
I think Boo tends to interpret any cultural characteristics as collective thinking.
In a sense, culture is a kind of collective thought.


What religion is other than a form of collective / hive mind.

I also strongly believe that preferences in the opposite sex is largely a collective / hive mind thing per culture, as I have demonstrated it in the tinder experiment.



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07 Nov 2018, 8:08 am

Religion? You don't need to be religious to have preferences shaped by your culture.
And we all live inside it, shaped by the words we know and cultural meanings attached to otherwise meaningless actions. Humans live in cultures. You or me are no exceptions.


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07 Nov 2018, 9:07 am

We are certainly influenced by the culture/cultures around us---whether we like it or not.

Think about this prominent and obvious fact:

The English Romantics disdained the Greek/Roman origins of literature----but made use of both considerably within their literature.



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07 Nov 2018, 9:42 am

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Religion? You don't need to be religious to have preferences shaped by your culture.
And we all live inside it, shaped by the words we know and cultural meanings attached to otherwise meaningless actions. Humans live in cultures. You or me are no exceptions.


No, I just stated religion as an example of hive mind.

"Preferences" which are thought by many to be so individualistic but I disagree on that, is another example.



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10 Nov 2018, 7:54 pm

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If you wanted to find a starter's PUA handbook, I would recommend "Rules of the Game" by Neil Strauss. It is basically a workbook with daily homework assignments to gradually force you out of your shell and into the world.


Thank you :)



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10 Nov 2018, 8:20 pm

Pick up Artists tricks do not work for Autistics but work better for NTs.
Having Autism makes you appear creepy weird and is a negative points rating that brings your SMV down.
Autistics are socially awkward, have low confidence/low self esteem and that is hard to hide it social situations.
You get ignored, the woman feels offended you approached her(resting b***h face/rolls eyes) or her white knight protectors bashes you up.
Autistics find it hard to speak to people and find it hard to read non-verbal social cues.