Are you retired from dating?

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Now that you're "retired," maybe a girl will notice your lack of desperation, and want to get to know you better.

[quote="kraftiekortie"]Now that you're "retired," maybe a girl will notice your lack of desperation, and want to get to know you better.[/quote

No thanks. I like being retired.

I was retired, but someone has recently coaxed me out of it... ¬_¬

I think I might be okay with this, though I'm not coping well with all of these new changes. I know I'll get used to it, I just have to hang in there.

I tried a new dating website about a month ago, with an almost empty profile and no photo...I only saw one girl worth messaging, but fate must have been smiling on me, because she actually messaged back.

Not to imply that this is a good strategy to try...

I didn't even start yet.

I never done the whole dating thing. I had NO luck trying to get dates probably cuz of a combination of all my various issues. I met both my exes & current girlfriend on forums. I think my personality shines through better on forums after the rite woman has read a lot of my posts.

I work at a retirement village where the youngest people are in their 50's. I'm 23. Also, I don't have any friends, and the only friends I could make in the past were other losers who women weren't interested in.

I'm well and truly retired from dating. I don't know what it is, but no woman has ever found me appealing. Only compliments I've ever had are "you're so nice" and "you have my respect". Those are the most bargain-basement compliments that people just hand out like candy. They're neutral, not positive.

I have no problem getting attention from women and I still don’t want to date. I’d rather be alone than have to make plans with a woman everyday.

I don't want to date anymore. I was married for 14 years. It was Good to OK while I was working fulltime but once I stopped working (our son was ill) there was this power and control thing my partner had. Looking back I think it came from anxiety about being the only wage earner, not from malice, but it was very very hard to live under. I got depressed, saw a counsellor and started becoming a whole person again. But that made things in our relationship worse. We've been divorced for 6 years now and I still can't face dating again.

Dating itself is pretty difficult (from my point of view - I'm sure some people like it). I'm just no longer sure enough that I even want a relationship to put myself through that stuff again. I genuinely think I would be better off getting a dog.

Are you assuming that they invent time machines by the time you're 70 lol.

I feel like people aren't grasping what you're saying here.

Dating is a too much work for you and you don't enjoy it enough to keep on with it.

It's not that you can't find someone. You can. You just can't bothered with the hassle.

Just like all the guys I meet... seems no single guys actually want a relationship these days.

That's why I've retired. There's no point. Men don't want relationships anymore

"Just when I thought I was out, they pulled me back in!" -- Michael Corleone

Exactly, dating is too much of a hassle. I’ll take freedom over a relationship.

You don't have to make plans every day.


Exactly.

I feel like the hiatus was pretty good for me, though. I used to have a habit of just jumping from one girl to another, just because I felt like I wasn't "complete" without someone else.

You don't have to make plans every day.

Women don’t want to be independent. They want a personal assistant and attention giver. Been there done that enough, I’m retired.

Can't be retired when you've never even played the game.

Well, it depends on the woman. An independent one would suit you better.

But you don't have to be in a relationship if you don't want to be it's the 21st century.