It’s driving me crazy...

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Does your tinnitus ring that loudly in such situations?

I feel like there's a mini fire alarm coming out of my brain.

geez, i'm so sorry. you deserve better than that.

^^Yeah, unfortunately, the more stress you feel the louder it rings.

I told her this man is surely gonna abuse her situation, me on the other hand I knew her when she was a legal migrant, and I let her know that I will never forgive her - ever (she asked for forgiveness earlier).

I am blocking all her contacts.

That's completely useless and unreliable. Love should not be expressed with words, but with actions.

^ I agree with that, but what if they're a really good actor.

Good for you!

You deserve someone better - you deserve to be loved.

She never actually loved you. But the good news is, when you find the woman who does love you (there will be many) you will definitely know.

-Hugs-

I'm so sorry to hear this Boo. I don't know what to say.

That's f*****g horrible!! And "I love you, god knows that" ugh... "God knows that (so it's ok) but it's not enough (for you)" is really what she's saying. She's using her imaginary friend as an excuse but also trying to (poorly) cover all bases by claiming (aka lying) that she understands that it's not enough.
Or maybe I'm just a cynical bastard.
Either way, although this may be easier said than done, she's not worth worry about. I'm certainly no expert on love but in my opinion if she really loved you she wouldn't break up with you so easily. Someone like that isn't worth your time and energy. She'll probably just end up breaking his heart in a year or 2 as well. But it's ok to be upset for a bit, just don't let it consume you or take up too much of your time and prevent you from doing something else, especially moving on.

I'm sorry your relationship ended. That hurts.

But never trusting anyone again is not the answer. Being a little more skeptical is. Also, sometimes a relationship has to either go all the way (to marriage) or be thrown over for someone who can offer that.

I don't blame you for blocking her. When this much has happened and been said, this can be a way to reclaim some stability. Since she chose the breakup, she has no further claim on you, your support, and your emotions.

My daughter was dumped by a guy, and she got over it and moved on. She says he still wanted to talk over his problems with her though. She said "cry me a river - we're not in a relationship any more, so you don't get to use me as your free therapist." I was so proud of her!

Who knows what her motivations were?

I would have to agree with Bea on this. Healthy skepticism is better than giving up all hope.

Sorry about what happened.

Now you have the pick of all the Beirut girls!

She wants to talk to me personally, to explain everything when having the chance, I dunno what more she wanna tell me.

Before she spilled the beans she asked me "Let's be friends please, if you really love me please accept that", I refused , and insisted on her to tell me the truth, ...and what truth it is.

Btw, some weeks ago, an anonymous woman saw our picture together on the dating app where we met, she messaged me and told me she knows her and she's dating someone else- she said it in a mocking way so I thought she was just trolling and lying so I blocked her. That's why when my ex changed in attitude the first thing I thought of was this anonymous message, the timing of everything made me to suspect that this one was telling the truth.

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I am sorry that that happened to you, Boo. It may take a bit of time before you mentally move on, so give yourself that before going after another relationship. While I have no personal experience in romantic relationships, I have seen it happen to friends in the past. They needed me as a shoulder to “cry” on so I became a witness to this process. My advice is to do something nice for yourself to help you clear all of this out of your mind. You have been successful in finding love before, so you will find it again in short time.

Why aren't you revising

Commiserations Boo , clearly she wasn't the 'one' , this doesn't make it hurt any less. Hopefully knowing that you have a community here that supports you makes thing a little better.

I'm sorry it happened, Boo.

I think you did the right thing to block her – once she chose to leave you, she is no longer your responsibility, but now you have your own sanity to protect. If your hurt is deep, you don't need to agree to any further contact that would be only disturbing.