15 Aug 2017, 7:19 am
Tim_Tex wrote:
Is "wanna come to my place and fornicate?" a good thing to message someone on a Christian dating site?
You sound just like Gene from Bob's Burgers.
14 Dec 2017, 12:51 pm
This is a very cliche question but: Is it possible for a guy to stay friends with a woman he likes? He very clearly likes me and i really like him as a friend but i don't want to be something more. 
23 Dec 2017, 12:22 am
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27 Mar 2018, 1:06 pm
Most of this advice is for AS males. What are we women supposed to do?
27 Mar 2018, 1:30 pm
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05 Feb 2019, 3:29 am
Tim_Tex wrote:
I have two questions:
1. Is there a good way to determine whether to take something literally or to dismiss it as a white lie, in terms of rejection?
2. If someone rejects me based on things they merely assumed about me, or that weren't true, or based on bizarre ideas they have about relationships, and I dispute/debate it with them, does that automatically mean I have a sense of entitlement/can't handle rejection, or is the problem with the other person?
1. Is there a good way to determine whether to take something literally or to dismiss it as a white lie, in terms of rejection?
2. If someone rejects me based on things they merely assumed about me, or that weren't true, or based on bizarre ideas they have about relationships, and I dispute/debate it with them, does that automatically mean I have a sense of entitlement/can't handle rejection, or is the problem with the other person?
If you're attractive (You take care of yourself physically/have nice clothes girls have been attracted to you before) and you're nice, then the problem is always with the other person.
Some women are not very intelligent and crave abuse from jerks, and usually attractive men will misunderstand the rejection and think it is their shortcoming - when in reality, the girl being pursued is just not very bright.
05 Feb 2019, 3:33 am
AprilR wrote:
This is a very cliche question but: Is it possible for a guy to stay friends with a woman he likes? He very clearly likes me and i really like him as a friend but i don't want to be something more.
It's possible - but if you consider him that important, then perhaps you could go on one date with him just to see if there is really any feeling there.
Maybe give it a chance.
05 Feb 2019, 3:34 am
Stardust Parade wrote:
Most of this advice is for AS males. What are we women supposed to do?
Look for a nice guy - that's a great first step.
05 Feb 2019, 3:41 am
BayeuxTailor wrote:
Well I can't sleep, so I'll see how many questions I can answer in one go.
Having something to offer = being able to offer love, emotional support, dependability, understanding, and your own passions and interests to another person. I'm only focusing on the non material things.
I have found it is really quite hard to maintain a friendship with someone who has romantic feelings for you, as they may keep trying, or read too much into situations, or attempt to chip away at your self esteem gradually in the hope that you may cave into their desire for a relationship with you. I'm only speaking from my own personal experience though.
Flirting for an AS woman would depend on whether it was an NT man or an AS man she was flirting with. Your own desires are a factor also. If for example, you were interested in a man you knew already you might ask about his interests, compliment his abilities, casually touch his arm a couple of times as you talk, smile and laugh, and make eye contact. Also, keep your body language open (face him and dont cross your arms). However, some of these things are tricky with AS. I think it is important to feel beautiful and confident as a woman (its tricky sometimes I know), so perhaps make sure you wear clothes that make you feel confident. I think flirting with an AS man is probably more straight forward, as you are probably in a situation where you could just say "I am flirting with you". I hope this is of some use. Men are a confusing bunch, and I personally dont like overly flirtatious men. Oh, also, look for his reaction - is he smiling, laughing, complimenting you, or touching your arm? Does he look a little flushed, or nervous?
Having something to offer = being able to offer love, emotional support, dependability, understanding, and your own passions and interests to another person. I'm only focusing on the non material things.
I have found it is really quite hard to maintain a friendship with someone who has romantic feelings for you, as they may keep trying, or read too much into situations, or attempt to chip away at your self esteem gradually in the hope that you may cave into their desire for a relationship with you. I'm only speaking from my own personal experience though.
Flirting for an AS woman would depend on whether it was an NT man or an AS man she was flirting with. Your own desires are a factor also. If for example, you were interested in a man you knew already you might ask about his interests, compliment his abilities, casually touch his arm a couple of times as you talk, smile and laugh, and make eye contact. Also, keep your body language open (face him and dont cross your arms). However, some of these things are tricky with AS. I think it is important to feel beautiful and confident as a woman (its tricky sometimes I know), so perhaps make sure you wear clothes that make you feel confident. I think flirting with an AS man is probably more straight forward, as you are probably in a situation where you could just say "I am flirting with you". I hope this is of some use. Men are a confusing bunch, and I personally dont like overly flirtatious men. Oh, also, look for his reaction - is he smiling, laughing, complimenting you, or touching your arm? Does he look a little flushed, or nervous?
I tend to find that men that will touch your arm are more interested in sex.
If the man is clearly nervous and shy and doesn't touch you, then he respects your space and is likely in love with you.
Men tend to wear their emotions on their sleeves and are less confusing than women.
Don't over-think their reactions - men are more simple.
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