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18 Feb 2019, 9:36 pm
nick007 wrote:
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Arganger wrote:
goldfish21 wrote:
Arganger wrote:
I would suggest it- if someone is going to be a jerk and have a problem with it, better to take them out of the pool right away.
Bad advice.
The whole point of dating profiles is to sell the attractive features of yourself to prospective partners. Almost no one considers Autism as an attractive feature, so it's best to omit it vs. put it out there and have people filter you out by it who otherwise may have agreed to a date.
I'd rather be rejected earlier than get attached to a person then get rejected.
Then again my presentation of autism is more noticeable than many and if I choose not to be upfront with it, I'm sure they would notice something was up. I'd rather get the questions and misconceptions cleared up right away than it become a long drawn out issue.
People would either have to find out you are autistic eventually, or make up their own reasoning, an example;
You have a meltdown;
You've told/explained it to them all ready; "I hope he's okay, lets get through this, he/she is having a meltdown"
You haven't; "Holy crap, what a manipulative grown child"
And autism definitely isn't unattractive to everyone.
So disclose it in a private conversation once you’re communicating with someone, IMO. Putting it in a profile will only serve to have more people reject you for it who might have otherwise chatted with you and decided they were ok with it.
Oh, really? Feel free to provide any links to any statements by anyone, ever, stating that they’re attracted to autism/autistics. Besides some people on the spectrum stating that they feel they’re only compatible with others on the spectrum, I cannot recall ever reading that someone is attracted to autism/autistics.
Exactly my point. For the most part it brings up negative connotations vs. stirs feelings of attraction, so it's best to omit it & only disclose it later one when ideal and necessary. IMO.
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