What qualifies something as a relationship?

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Hey I was just curious because I've recently fallen out with a girl I used to consider my ex, but she says she was not really my ex because we were never in a relationship in the first place. This got me thinking what exactly would qualify whether or not it was a relationship?

We only fully dated once so I can see where she's coming from, but at the same time during the date we both told each other that we really really liked each other and wanted to meet up again for a 2nd date, but it never happened because her mother stopped letting her see me. We still kept up contact via phone, text and facebook in the mean time though and she seemed really into me and said she liked me more than just as a friend, but things went downhill after that and as I said we never ended up going on a 2nd date.

Do you guys think this would qualify as being in a short relationship, or was she right and we were actually just close friends?

A relationship starts at the first introduction. Where it goes from there is up to everyone involved.

Hi, I can understand it may be difficult to define what is a relationship. As am mom, I would tell my son that he is in a “relationship” with a girl if they have met in person for a “date” several times, have both expressed an attraction towards each other, agreed to continue to see each other, and agreed to see each other EXCLUSIVELY. That is, they both agree they will only go out one dates with each other.

A date could be described as going out together to get to know each other better. It could be going out to a movie, dinner, a coffee shop, bowling, or some other activity you believe you both would enjoy...

Hope this is helpful, although I know it may be old-fashioned.

I'd say if the meetings and hang outs get out of the "do we like each other?" territory and become "we're doing this (romantic stuff, kissing, etc) because we like each other" then you're dating. It generally has to be several times you get together to do this stuff.

Bf-Gf if it's exclusive or if you just decide to be. Bf-Gf is for commitment. If you're not committed it's a fling. If it's just one or two dates it's just someone you went on a date with.

Flings and ex-bfs/gfs I would call exes for convenience's sake.

If when not in each others' company, you acknowledge her as your girlfriend and she acknowledges you as her boyfriend, then it's a relationship. I suppose you could call that "witnessing" if you're religious.

I guess the only exception to this would be if it was absolutely essential to keep the relationship secret. Such relationships often don't go well for reasons that probably don't need explanation.

If it’s a ship named Relation.