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18 May 2020, 9:14 am

Sly would be a big fish in a place like Bend, Oregon.



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18 May 2020, 9:18 am

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That or they'll just stop and ask themselves why theyre taking advice on romance from Pepe LePew. Just a thought. :)


The chase is great.
Hoppidy, hoppidy, hop...
It's the shackles/commitment, which comes with the consummation, that is the problem. :mrgreen:
They didn't explain that in the cartoons, did they. :wink:


Pepe le pew would be jailed today for obvious harassment.



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18 May 2020, 9:19 am

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Sly would be a big fish in a place like Bend, Oregon.


We should start a new thread then: Do women like fish?

Just in case.



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18 May 2020, 9:23 am

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He is a floor person, experiences anxiety and issues going to college (so may/may not finish), does not have a driver's license or car yet (says he has anxiety over the notion of driving)... i think his biggest obstacle will be being addicted to porn/using self satisfaction as a coping mechanism. That damages the ability to have further connections in a relationship, which he claims he craves.

So now you see a bigger picture, and i chose to allow myself to fall in love with him.

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I said yes to being his girlfriend before he had his first job. He works retail now.

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He started his first job during the holiday season last year. November/December-ish. Ghosting could not be that, though... as he still shows pretty active in apps like Instagram. He just doesn't talk to me anymore after he said he felt like he made a huge mistake. To my NT mind, that means he must have lost interest.

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NT female here. I adored my ASD (20) boyfriend. I wish he would come back. He kept getting overwhelmed any time remotely I tried to talk about if there was a disagreement or he would disappear and not communicate he was disappearing... or if I felt hurt. The one time he did something inappropriate (used self sexual pleasure for coping) while I was texting him about some serious issues...

Any time since this year if I brought up something as calmly as I could to discuss, he would resort to "maybe it would be best if we broke up". Ultimately he ended it by not breaking up with me directly... 10 days later saying he felt like he made a huge mistake breaking it off... then ghosted me completely. Talk about giving abandonment issues.

Anyway. I loved his special interests. I learned his routines and I knew when to expect him to disappear (about 75% of the time). I loved his quirks, and I admired his truthfulness, although I would get frustrated at him skirting around issues sometimes, as it would seem deceptive. I embraced him for who he was. We were friends beforehand, although I felt an instant connection to him. Where he had a low self esteem, I admired what he hated about himself. We were together for almost a year.

Bottom line: We are out there. I thought the world of him.


Did he have a job?


I was meaning is women won’t even date me cause I lack a real job, so I’m not a real man.
Did you date him before or after he had a job?


Why not date a guy with real job and future?


I think that is a very silly question. For now it is a real job, could still continue to be a real job... and he has a future. Who are any of us to judge another.



Is he a manager? You said your an assistant manager, that’s different the min wage retail. My manager and assistant managers make middle class income.

It’s funny some women ask if I’m manager and when I say I’m just floor person they say no thanks.

In dating women are the employer and so they can judge suitors however they want.
I’m just going have to accept any woman if one ever decides to waste their time on me.

I’m sure if I was 18-22 and had a car it wouldn’t matter as much but most 30 year old men have middle class jobs, new cars and own their houses. I’m 32 and get disability and work 12 hours a week, when I’m 50 I’ll be on disability and working retail still. This is it for me. Though I won’t live to 50. I don’t see me living past 35. For someone like me life without love and companionship isn’t life. I don’t fancy existing for existing sake so that others can feeel good


So see sly, it sounds she liked a person in your same situation.



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18 May 2020, 9:26 am

Sly would be a big fish in a small pond (American idiom).



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18 May 2020, 12:49 pm

^ I would still prefer grilled fish with lemon and tartar; and brown rice on the side.



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18 May 2020, 1:17 pm

Yes, you are correct. I was referring to attitude.

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Assessing the situation can be valid, but judging a situation never is. No one except the parties in participation know a situations it's and outs, nor does any one know the progress that can be made or the growth that can come with a particular situation.


In other words,
It is a question of Attitude. 8)

Interestingly, "Judges", in a court of law, actually "judge",
But from an objective POV.

There is a lot of semantics involved, here.
I enjoy semantic analysis, btw.
You have been warned. :wink:

But I take your point.
There is no need for a sanctimonious/supercilious/"judgemental" attitude.
That is the context you are accurately/validly referring to. :wink:

BTW,
It is the job of a judge, in a court of law, to determine the "a situations in's and outs".
But you don't have to be a court official to engage in this investigative, errr, investigation. 8)

Sorry,
I'm high on caffeine,
Hence this "interesting" post of mine. :coffee: :hic:



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18 May 2020, 8:52 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
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That or they'll just stop and ask themselves why theyre taking advice on romance from Pepe LePew. Just a thought. :)


The chase is great.
Hoppidy, hoppidy, hop...
It's the shackles/commitment, which comes with the consummation, that is the problem. :mrgreen:
They didn't explain that in the cartoons, did they. :wink:


Pepe le pew would be jailed today for obvious harassment.


SJW would definitely have a problem with that cartoon, these days. :wink:



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18 May 2020, 9:02 pm

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Confidence is irrelevant in modern dating. Stats are important. With dating sites women and men can see all the info they need to make quick judgment calls.


You are talking about online dating where girls can rate you before they even talk to you. I was saying that you need to speak to women face to face. Online dating isn't recommended.

Both confidence and attitude are crucial when speaking to a girl. So is patience.



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18 May 2020, 9:25 pm

I haven't read this entire thread but I think answer to this is rather obvious. The stats alone show that being as Aspie doesn't lead to a lot of romantic success. The marriage rate is much lower for Aspie men than NT men. Aspie men have had fewer girlfriends across their lifetime compared to NT men, same with sex partners.

Is there any romance or relationship stat where Aspies even come close to NTs on?



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18 May 2020, 9:52 pm

Statistics don’t matter. It’s the individual that matters.

Going by statistics only leads to a sense of futility.



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18 May 2020, 9:58 pm

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SJW would definitely have a problem with that cartoon, these days. :wink:


I always figured the family values folks would be the ones making a fuss over trans-species bestiality.

SJWs are already onboard with cat-polecat marriage. :clown:


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18 May 2020, 10:23 pm

If Pepe wasn’t a skunk, that chick would have dug him!



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18 May 2020, 10:51 pm

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If Pepe wasn’t a skunk, that chick would have dug him!


There's a simple solution, paint white stripes on the cat and black stripes on the skunk. Suddenly they'd be smashing like they just met at an anime convention.


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19 May 2020, 12:11 am

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I don't know. Do aspie men simply just dislike aspie women?


Its virtually impossible for an aspie guy to find an aspie girl to date for the same reason that you would find it hard to date a person who actually walked on the Moon. Like Apollo astronauts aspie women are a tiny population.


So being "rare" is the same as "non-existent". Okay have fun being a miserable sexist incel.



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19 May 2020, 12:14 am

lostonearth35 wrote:
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I don't know. Do aspie men simply just dislike aspie women?


Its virtually impossible for an aspie guy to find an aspie girl to date for the same reason that you would find it hard to date a person who actually walked on the Moon. Like Apollo astronauts aspie women are a tiny population.


So being "rare" is the same as "non-existent". Okay have fun being a miserable sexist incel.


I think NP just mean't it's a numbers game...meeting a single Aspie girl is rare