Can you tell when you get hit on?

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Of keeping opportunities?


Only very few people see themself as taken except in the very first time. But people in a relationship share usually a lot more than just their bed.


I want a crush until the innerst of the soul of me and her. Possible with every girl? I don't think you. There has to be more then just sexual desire or a relation doesn't last long.


Here are you are very wrong except the crush of a guy is really mindblowing in his eyes. Beside of this bases a long lasting relationship on the very strong emotional connection that both - the guy and a girl - establish in the first time or even at their first interaction. It's a very long lasting and strong feeling of an internal connection that they share with each other and also makes them unique in each others eyes.

When I get hit on, it's quite obvious most of the time. Mainly because those that do hit on me usually aren't subtle about it at all. I've experienced different types of flirting and I think my least favourite is when someone compliments me and puts themselves down in the process (such as "I know I don't have a chance because you're *insert quality here* and I'm not but maybe we could...?") I'd recommend against flirting in such a fashion.

Now, offline most of the flirting I experience is from guys. Online it's mainly from women. I think it can be a little trickier to tell when a woman is flirting VS being friendly because overt affection is often expected in female friendships. Heck I even know straight women that flirt with women because they think it's impressive that they are able to gain their attention. I remember overhearing a conversation about a woman's visit to a gay bar and how she hit on the lesbians there despite not liking women to see if she had what it takes to impress a lesbian...I was so baffled by the conversation. I tend to assume it's being friendly unless I see them checking me out or they blatantly say "I'm gay and I find you attractive". Which a few have told me exactly that, so I do find that when a woman is actually flirting with me she's usually quite direct about it.

Me being hit on happens very, very rarely, which doesn't help me recognise the signs. I tend to only realise several hours or days later. Several years later in one case: it was at school, and given my usual interactions with my classmates I naturally assumed that the Goth girl's friends had put her up to it to humiliate me.

I can think of only 2 occasions when I twigged in the actual moment. One time I straight up panicked and lost the ability to speak. The other time, I was all "Damn, this is brilliant" and was all ready to swing smoothly into action (for a certain value of "smooth".) At which point she started puking in the corner of the bar... she was a barmaid who had been gettin' high on her own supply all night. I'm not sure if this was her building up Dutch courage to approach my awesome sexiness, or if you need to be that drunk to find me attractive.

the only time i knew for a fact that i'd been hit on, was when a streetwalker on washington dc's infamous 14th street grabbed my crotch. IOW it takes something blatant for me to catch on.

I think people wan't to become noticed if they feel really attracted. Women are more aware of the behaviour of others as well. Autistic people have often a problem with that.


Thanks to mention that. People tend to trust the feelings of others about themself more then their words. If somebody puts himself down then women assume there exists a very good reason for it because he seems to be very aware of it and for this they tend to treat him even worse the he treats himself. Worse because they assume him being right (because he seems convinced of that) and for this they assume that there must be must exist better ones who are a much better option.

Here it comes to you and your own way as well. Never put yourself down - you don't have to.
I was too blunt to you once because I had no idea that you are that way too.
Don't ever think low about yourself. You don't have a true reason to do so.


Can be. But women compete regarding affection of others and being worshipped by them.
Seems to be the most common female perversion.


That's part of this.


Welcome in reality. It's even a way for you to get them because they do as their perversion tolds them and they dislike to admit that they did just for fun but don't dare to get in bed with you in reality then. Best is to take it like granted that they want to be in bed with you and don't let them a chance to escape you if it happens to you. Same if they are lesbians.


Because they assume women to like that blunt way and don't want to be misunderstood. May be it's even a way for you. Either they like that and start to flirt with you or they reject you immediately. But you know what is up with them afterwards. The other way is once they like you to show that you like them for doing so to response positively and react the same. If they respond positively as well then you can push the things they like step by step up to an extreme.

I'm in my mid 30's now so I am not attractive anymore. I saw in my photos compared to when I was in my twenties. Maybe I need to start wearing make up and find a hair style that suits me but my sensory issues get in the way of long hair and keeping it down and having bangs.

Mid-30's? Why do people here think the 30's are old?

I may be biased----but I've always tended to find women in their 30's more appealing than women in their 20's.

I'm a little more able to spot it now, I think. Not that it really helps, as I don't find myself in a lot of social situations to begin with, and I don't really put a lot of effort into being hit-on-able. I don't think I've ever gone into a situation where I had mentally prepared for the possibility beforehand.

I don't know about you. But I'm not even 40 yet and I feel like I don't have energy for anything anymore. I get out of bed in the morning aching and it just goes downhill from there.

40 and feeling old? Just change the way you are for getting some energy back.

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I often miss when a lady is flirting. I know there are supposed to be physical cues, but I am never focusing on those, as I am more so just a mess inside my own head repeating something like, "don't screw this up...don't look dumb...don't be awkward...don't say that..." etc.

What does that even me?

60 isn't old, agree.
And different people age differently.

A 5 mile run/walk is fantastic.
That and an active mind defies chronological aging.
Check out my signature, btw.

And, don't look at her, errr, lungs.



Unless you have some physical condition, the more you exercise, the better you feel, if you do it slowly.
"Baby steps."

Women in there 30s generally know who they are and what they want.




Evidence.



Sorry, the least has already been taken.

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How about this:
Babe, I will be the best thing that has happened to you since forever.
Don't waste this platinum opportunity to achieve the ultimate meaning in your life, meaning you by my side.
You have 15 seconds to make up your mind.
I gots things to do.

Too much?