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I don’t know if I should stop looking for a man. Why would a man want a girlfriend who cries alot, have meltdown, feel & act like a child?

There are a lot of people in this world. We are all like pieces of a puzzle. Sometimes you just need to find the right piece where two pieces can seamlessly join together.

^^Perfectly put, Jimmy!

Kitty, I hope you find someone who is loving and understanding of you, and you of him. I’ve long felt that those who are “lovers” in this life, in other words, those who need and want someone to share life with, I’m convinced that several lifetimes would not, could not, exhaust the lover. It’s a part of their nature, like breathing. But the one thing love has in common with life - good and bad times. There is little life without love.

I feel the VERY same way, Miss Kitty.

My girlfriend is like that Kitty. I'm gonna be honest & admit that it can be difficult for me to deal with sometimes but there's LOTS of things about her that I love which more than makes up for the bad. She's a very loving & sweet person when she's not being pushed to her breaking point by various things going wrong & bad life stuff. It might be good if you could meet a guy who's kinda the same way you are or who has other issues.

I thought you said your girlfriend have Aspergers too.

She does are at least has lots of overlapping issues.

Maybe Nick is right. I should look for an Aspergers guy on here or somewhere, but where. I don’t know other sites or apps that have guys there have Aspergers or other issues. It feels like I’m really breaking down with having Cerebral Pasly, Aspergers, Psoriasis, Dyslexia & Intelligence Disability, I also have alot of pain in my feet & my lower legs, I can only walk for a limited time before my legs start to really hurt. I’m still on Coffee Meets Bagel dating app, I’m not subscribe, I’m also on Badoo. On Instagram, they have CMB, I’m following them, on Instagram, I’m popular with the guys, they don’t know how old I really am, to them, I maybe be in my late 20s-30s, I’m 50. They maynot like my real age. There was this guy on Badoo, he was so cute, I really like his eyes, when I told him I have Cerebral Pasly & Aspergers, he disappeared. I can be scared to tell guys with what I have.

In the movie "The Big Short" one of the main characters was a guy who had Aspergers. He posted on a dating site that he had $90,000 of student debt, was missing an eye, and was socially awkward. The gal that became his wife responded that he was exactly what she was looking for - honest.

There are guys that want to provide and take care of a wife and are not interested in the equal partners meme that is presented today as the ideal marriage. Being open and honest about your issues will result in many people being not interested. This works in your favor as you might not want to waste a lot of time with those who would leave you later anyway.

It's time to give up.

It's OK to give up.

You will be happier if you give up and accept it.

You can't meet anyone anytime soon in this pandemic anyway.

^ this. There’s nothing wrong with giving up.

Nothing wrong with giving up FOR NOW.

But never, never give up for the rest of your life!

You're an attractive woman who looks younger than your age. Guys are really missing out!

Interesting idea. There are all types of matchmaking websites catering to different groups. For example,
FarmersOnly.com
It reads: Sign up for free to find a farmer, rancher, cowboy, cowgirl or animal lover here at Farmersonly.com, an online dating site meant for down to earth folks only.

Maybe there should be a matchmaking site specifically designed to match individuals who have challenges in finding love.

I tried some dating sites for disableds & membership was low

There's someone out there for everyone. Keep trying.

The thing is though, it's not all about how attractive we look.

We have mirrors and we know we aren't bridge trolls.

Relationships for us quirky folk are really, really difficult.

Giving up doesn't mean, "I now declare myself an ugly blob".

It means that I value my worth, but this dating drama, trying to communicate, trying to impress, trying to please, it's making me unhappy.

I want to be myself and enjoy my life without this thing that makes me sad.

I am personally a lot happier now.

Covid forced this on me. There's no way to meet anyone now. And I'm actually happier.

If a person comes a long, fine. But I'm not trying anymore.