Most men here cant get women because they lack confidence

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No, all this alpha, beta, gamma crap is based on a debunked understanding of wolf social interaction. It's inaccurate and misleading about that species and even more so when applied to humans.

I'm a nerdy introvert, useless at socializing, and yet have never lacked for female companionship--and often had more than I've wanted.

While it's true that desperation and negativity are turn-offs to women, there's no need to bring all this Greek alphabet nonsense into the discussion.

I'm tired of the insistence that I must find ways to show off confidence to get anywhere. I'd rather just be direct.

It's not all just appearances & behavioral science. People have minds too.

I'm sorry but this is my observation with a lot of the Aspie men I know here, they want a woman but their lack of confidence, desperation and need for a women oozes out so conspicuously they dont realize that they're only repelling any prospective partners the more they get desperate for a partner.

Look most people want a partner. But most people arent so desperate that they base their worth on whether they can find a partner or not, nor is it something that can consume them. BTW this thread is a generic thread not singling out anyone in particular, so if you read this thread and think im aiming it at someone please dont do that. This thread applies to many men, but especially the Aspie men who cant find partners, and thus Im making this thread for a lot of people.

Women want someone confidence, someone with spine, autonomy, and a sense of independent self worth which is lacking in people who wanting a partner goes from a want to a need. The moment someone'e entire self worth, existence and self validation becomes contingent on if another women likes them is ironically the moment they forever preempt said woman from loving them.

Top tier men, men who are alpha or even men who arent that high level but decently desirable, there's more on their plate than getting a woman. They have something about them that defines them that makes women want to find them, almost as if even if a woman doesnt accept them they have enough for themselves to survive but if a woman does love them its a bonus.

Thats what separates a want from a need. Wanting women isn't the same thing as needing a woman. Understand that difference and many of the men here who struggle with women while find themselves a lot more desirable and attractive.

And I want to emphasize again this thread is a general thread for men in general, not any member or members, heck not even Aspie men because many men struggle with this. They make finding a partner a goal that consumes them where it takes away from the autonomy and other qualities that would even make a woman want to find them. The moment men just develop themselves, build their own skills, become great people outside of a woman, then maybe more women will want to be in their lives. No one wants to be part of a boring or dull life. People want to join lives that already have something to offer.

Honestly, I shiver every time someone uses the phrase "to get women".
Like we were some stock on a restricted market.

Honestly, I shiver every time someone uses the phrase "to get women".
Like we were some stock on a restricted market.

Stop listening to male self help specialists.

Start listening to female friends.

If you don't have female friends, you're not ready for a girlfriend.

Not everyone has to have someone. If you're not into socialising, a relationship is a bad idea because it's pretty much sharing your life with someone.

That's why I'm happy single: people can just come and go in my life with no desire to 'own' them or 'have' them etc.