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I know people with AS are said to have obsesions. But does anyone only get obsessed with people of the opposite sex and almost nothing else? I seem to have a major crush every year, but never any ususal AS obsessions.

yep. that's me to a T, sadly.

It's happened to me before, but it's never been my only "restricted and stereotyped pattern of interest."

Meeeeeee
Except that it is not only about opposite sex. I regularly have crushes on people, male or female, as long as I come to admire them, most of the times because of their skills, intelligence, voice...
It is time consuming, because it gets me very upset, but I never display it because I am aware of the phenomenom. It is my "secret garden".

i've suffered intense crushes since childhood. the only way i can become "cured" of a crush is if i actually get to know the person and discover they are different to the way i imagined them to be, or if my fixation is transfered to someone else. i have become so used to these intense feelings that i don't feel "real" if i am not obsessing over someone (i can see how ridiculous this sounds as i am typing it!). if i find myself in a situation where one crush abruptly stops i will convince myself that i am infatuated with another person (even if that person is really unsuitable for me).

recently i found myself in the situation of being without a person to obsess over. so i decided to focus on a man who i used to go out with despite the fact that he is really mean and treats me like dirt. so i contacted him and we have arranged to see each other on monday night (12th september). i'm really nervous about seeing him because i know he's probably going upset me but i have to see him because it's the only way to stop myself from thinking about him.

on the otherhand, there is someone who has a crush on me at the moment who is becoming a nuisance. i'm starting to feel a little bit scared because he keeps on calling me and turning up to places where he knows i'll be (i had to change my telephone number to stop him from pestering me). i don't understand why he persists in contacting me when i've made it clear that i don't want to be with him- although i've had intense crushes i've always respected a person's wishes if i am told i am unwanted. i don't understand why he wants to put himself through the pain of rejection again and again when he has the option of moving on and finding someone who does like him.

I had that for three people in my life. I have been obsessed by this guy for two years now and he happends to be in love with me so we have been together for 1 year. It leads to much trouble being with someone you're obsessed with. Is anyone else in that situation?

I get a very short lasting obsession. Like, I see someone on the bus or train, I get a compulsion to miss my stop, go a couple of stops further just so I can keep looking at them. I never go too far past though, then just get on a bus/train going the other way or walk back.

Yes, this is all to familiar to me. Since I was about 7, I had a crush on some girl or other, usually lasting about a year. The girls I liked were usually fairly extrovert, but not gregarous or vulgar.
By the time I was about 12, my attention turned to having crushes on girls I saw on TV, rather than girls in my class.

I am glad to say that that stage of my life is over, thank God, and I am much more realistic about girls I am interested in. Often, extroverted women can be shallow, and the most interesting girls are the type that are the hardest to get to know.

Sure, I notice attractive women all the time, and think gosh you look sexy, but the next moment it is in the past, and I don't get obsessions anymore.

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lets god ickh ead?

Let's not not forget him, and say we didn't forget him, please, almighty gods and goddesses of the Internets and Autopia!

This can be really complicated, depending on who you're obsessed with. Hopefully, he or she will be understanding, if firm. On the opposite end, he or she could give you mixed signals, change her mind back and forth, and basically drive you nuts. Of course, it takes two to tango!

I was quite obsessed with a girl one time (and still am, somewhat, I must admit). It was with her that I first realized people can be ambivalent about certain other people and use repression to magically solve the problem (for themselves maybe, but it's not helpful for the other people whose feelings don't magically go away with hers). Honestly, I still love her; and, of course, if she were to call me up out of the blue and want my company, I wouldn't be able to say no even if I knew a relationship with her would probably be bad for me psychologically.

LOL.

The pang of his Vile aroma will always hold a place here. (whether we like it or not)

I remember him! He was alright, just a bit on the insane side.