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Texasmoneyman300 wrote:
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Is being labelled a pedophile or someone who is sexually attracted to children a prejudice that most men have faced at some point in there lives?
I have been labelled that falsely because i am attracted to 21 year olds.
Correct me if I am mistaken but I thought you were only considered a pedophile if your attracted to girls under 16?
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27 Jul 2021, 9:33 am
Texasmoneyman300 wrote:
Jamesy wrote:
Is being labelled a pedophile or someone who is sexually attracted to children a prejudice that most men have faced at some point in there lives?
I have been labelled that falsely because i am attracted to 21 year olds.
This is total garbage. You are not a pedo for liking a person who is considered of legal age to make such decisions.
Now they might call you a dirty old buggar but you are not even close to old.
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27 Jul 2021, 9:51 am
jbmajord wrote:
Texasmoneyman300 wrote:
Jamesy wrote:
Is being labelled a pedophile or someone who is sexually attracted to children a prejudice that most men have faced at some point in there lives?
I have been labelled that falsely because i am attracted to 21 year olds.
This is total garbage. You are not a pedo for liking a person who is considered of legal age to make such decisions.
Now they might call you a dirty old buggar but you are not even close to old.
It's only human nature for most older men to like younger women who are at the peak of there attractiveness.
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27 Jul 2021, 10:29 am
Jamesy wrote:
Correct me if I am mistaken but I thought you were only considered a pedophile if your attracted to girls under 16?
That would be correct in the UK as the age of consent is 16 (I think). That's not true in other parts of the world.
A "paedo" is someone who is attracted to kids. But the legal definition of 'child' and 'adult' varies. It always used to be assumed to be mainly a male thing but there are paedo "cougars" and predatory lesbians too.
There are also a lot of people who think it means anyone who tries to target much younger partners. So for example a 60 year old chasing 20-somethings around. But that isn't actually the true definition and there's no law against relationships with big age gaps provided both people are of legal age, bizarre though some such relationships may seem. In some cases the exploitation may run the other way, too, for example the whole "sugar daddy" phenomenon. The whole Anna Nicole Smith saga illustrates that game and all its pitfalls.
"Paedophile" is also a general insult aimed at anyone older who seems to be creepy or inappropriate.
I'd imagine Aspies get called that sometimes, by kids keen to throw insults around. Partly because they know how damning a criticism it is. And partly because Aspies may act slightly oddly (by NT standards) and be socially naive - for example by talking to younger people without being aware of how that might look to others.
Name-calling shouldn't stick, but unfortunately it can, so be careful.
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27 Jul 2021, 10:39 am
Redd_Kross wrote:
Jamesy wrote:
Correct me if I am mistaken but I thought you were only considered a pedophile if your attracted to girls under 16?
That would be correct in the UK as the age of consent is 16 (I think). That's not true in other parts of the world.
A "paedo" is someone who is attracted to kids. But the legal definition of 'child' and 'adult' varies. It always used to be assumed to be mainly a male thing but there are paedo "cougars" and predatory lesbians too.
There are also a lot of people who think it means anyone who tries to target much younger partners. So for example a 60 year old chasing 20-somethings around. But that isn't actually the true definition and there's no law against relationships with big age gaps provided both people are of legal age, bizarre though some such relationships may seem. In some cases the exploitation may run the other way, too, for example the whole "sugar daddy" phenomenon. The whole Anna Nicole Smith saga illustrates that game and all its pitfalls.
"Paedophile" is also a general insult aimed at anyone older who seems to be creepy or inappropriate.
I'd imagine Aspies get called that sometimes, by kids keen to throw insults around. Partly because they know how damning a criticism it is. And partly because Aspies may act slightly oddly (by NT standards) and be socially naive - for example by talking to younger people without being aware of how that might look to others.
Name-calling shouldn't stick, but unfortunately it can, so be careful.
So basically in some peoples minds a 30 year old man hanging out with 20 somethings can be considered pedophile like behaviour?
