Any tips for online dating sites?

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Was just wondering if anyone has any tips, for what sites to use, and what to say/what not to say in your profile? Do you mention AS for example?

I have signed up with match.com, it seems OK but there doesn't seem much actual matching going on really, aside from some basic multiple choice questions and (mostly pretty vague) "match words" - there seems to be a lots of repetition as a result. I'm aware of aspieaffection also.

I crafted my profile to drive away
those who weren't insane enough
for me. Still got hits. Yeah, mentioned
aspergers (got a reply from someone
into enemas ). Didn't find anything
I'd want though.

Can't imagine how so little could convey enough.
I want interaction of some sort, before I make
a decision on meeting someone. I'd prefer bbs's
to meet people.

I'd recommend plentyoffish and okcupid, as they are both free.

So's myspace, and it has fora.

So does plentyoffish, but I'd beware of using them.

First of all, the level of discourse isn't high.

Second of all, anything you post is on there forever and a link to it shows up on your profile.

Sounds interesting. I like being open.
The paradoxes astound.

I know the year's not over yet, but I'd still like to submit that quote for Understatement Of it.

You need to decide what sort of girl you would like to meet through the site, then you tailor your profile in such a way as to be appealing to that particular subset of women.

For example, if you would like to meet stupid women, you should talk about how much you enjoy long walks on the beach and romantic candlelit dinners.

To advise you regarding any specifics, I'd need to know more about you and your tastes. It is, of course, universally bad to focus on the negative or (as noted in another thread) to say things like "I would really prefer a blonde but I suppose I might go for a brunette."

As Calandale said, message boards like this one are a much more engaging way to meet people. I've had literally hundreds of contacts on the dating site I was on, and I exchanged emails and phone calls with a few guys, but I just couldn't manage to be very attracted to any of them, coming at it from that angle. It feels like ordering from a menu... and what makes people lovely are all those idiosyncrasies you can't easily show in a blurb on a dating profile. Here things feel much more natural. Forums also give you the chance to observe how the person who has your interest behaves when s/he is not showing off for you.

Its likely not as bad for women but one problem with the free sites is a high percent of false ads and since people are not spending money they are not as serious. So there is a high percentage of inactive members.

But even the pay sites have alot of scam ads. You could spot them easy in the past a young women that looks like she should be in modeling saying she will data a man 18-55. But the scam artist now often use average looking normal sounding women in fake ads.

I wish I could find the post on Digg. But a poster really explains
in alot of detail the futility in dating sites(for most people).

Kill them all, before you care.

Well, it seems to me that since there's a girl like me on dating sites, who actually goes out with a range of nice guys, and I can't be the ONLY one; and since I know two people who got married, who met online; and since I met my last two boyfriends online; I can't agree dating sites are futile.

I've had quite a bit of luck with match.com, although it's not for everyone because of the cost. I firmly believe that pay sites attract people who are actually looking for a relationship though and wouldn't be caught dead on a free site. I do occasionally use craigslist though, but it's a lot of garbage to weed through. I haven't had a relationship, but I've met quite a few men that I otherwise wouldn't have.

I don't mention AS in my profile, but I do mention that I'm "slow to warm up to people."

I used to subscribe to plentyoffish.com, and did meet someone from there in person earlier this year, but we weren't that great a match. I deleted my profile because I was planning to relocate to another city. I relocated from Houston to Wichita Falls 3 weeks ago.

Tim

When I was on dating sites (excluding Aspie Affection, which is a spin-off of WP to an extent), I never mentioned AS, or even implied any of the traits. I only mentioned the positive things and what I could offer someone.

Although I am still single, I don't utilize dating sites right now.

Tim