Ex possibly drugged me & emotionally abused me

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Will be providing the most important parts in bullet points for you guys to better assess the situation. 

- Knew this girl for 5 years before dating, she knows everything about me, including having high function ASD

-  First date she was showering me with gifts such as crystals,crackers,candy,blankets  ( was done in a HERE it's for YOU take it, kind of way)

-   Talked to me everyday, tons of emojis, kept referring to us as "us" talked about going on trips with me

- Told me on the first date all her ex's are bad and evil

- After a few weeks told me I am the most amazing guy ever and the greatest guy in the world

- At some point later on in the month tells me all of her Boyfriends HAVE to have a therapist, if the person she is seeing does not get one then the relationship will only be short term. Says I need paper proof ( So basically an ultimatum)

- Tells me at some point I need to show her proof of a STD test if we are going to be intimate. ( somewhat understandable) Says I need paper proof

- I go over her house and we are eating weed brownies and I feel all relaxed, I am a lightweight in general with weed but the effect I get is usually melting relaxed feeling. So we go to her backyard and I smoke her joint and all of a sudden I can taste this blueberry taste mixed with fiber glass industrial chemical smell. In 5 seconds I felt like I just drank 50 redbulls and I could do anything, after about a 50 seconds I blacked out. When I was on the couch and woke up she was using this opportunity to give me a speech about empowerment and how she tech could bring her to her room but shes going to flex her power on me and smirked. ( mind u I just wanted to stay in the living room) then I almost blacked out again and told her I can't feel my body, instead of calling 911 she decides to go outside and smoke some more, then after about a hour went into the kitchen while humming and packed my bag with goodies such as cupcakes and starburst fruit chews. I kept saying I couldn't move and she said lets go come on with a smile. She drove me home. When I got home I fell on the floor and had to call 911.


- During a planning session to hang out a few days later, I gave her about 12 different scenarios on what to do and what we are doing that week, when she got angry from me asking too many questions she basically said I have to be accommodating to her needs or this relationship is not going to work ( giving me another ultimatum ) I called her bluff and she rapid fire called my phone 20 times, after the 20th time I finally clicked green and accepted the call, told her she was abusive and I didn't like how she was treating me. She then screamed and rage quitted.


Notes about her to better help u understand how she is :

- She said her brain is like a library and different parts of brain are put back in and out.
- Had bad stuff happen to her
- Mostly all of her ex's were bad and crazy
- Works for tons of foundations and causes, mostly her whole identity is working for any kind of cause
- Was kicked out of her house by her parents for a month and disowned for unknown reasons.
- Has weird scabs,knicks and line marks on her arms.

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Thoughts:

- Just to clarify, are you female or male or trans/NB? Your avatar says female. She refers to you as a guy and wants boyfriends to have therapists. Gender doesn't really matter to the story, but I'm trying to understand the dynamic.

- The thing about having a therapist is odd to me, unless of course each partner has expressed a desire for therapy.

- The thing about the STI testing is normal. My partner and I went together for STI testing and full checkups before.
I know it doesn't sound romantic, but it's responsible and reasonable when you're with a new person.
He went to my Gyne with me several times, and even goes to my PRT for support.

- Brownie incident: Do you have physical signs of an assault?

- Did she give you roofies or mushrooms in the brownies? What happened when you contacted 911?
Did they test the brownies and do tox screens for you? Did you tell them you may have been assaulted?
Are you thinking sexual assault in addition to emotional? Did they let you talk to a social worker?
So many questions.


- The last incident: She doesn't sound stable regardless of the reason.

I go over her house and we are eating weed brownies and I feel all relaxed, I am a lightweight in general with weed but the effect I get is usually melting relaxed feeling. So we go to her backyard and I smoke her joint and all of a sudden I can taste this blueberry taste mixed with fiber glass industrial chemical smell. In 5 seconds I felt like I just drank 50 redbulls and I could do anything, after about a 50 seconds I blacked out. When I was on the couch and woke up she was using this opportunity to give me a speech about empowerment and how she tech could bring her to her room but shes going to flex her power on me and smirked. ( mind u I just wanted to stay in the living room) then I almost blacked out again and told her I can't feel my body, instead of calling 911 she decides to go outside and smoke some more, then after about a hour went into the kitchen while humming and packed my bag with goodies such as cupcakes and starburst fruit chews. I kept saying I couldn't move and she said lets go come on with a smile. She drove me home. When I got home I fell on the floor and had to call 911.

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As for the brownies, she said its weed, I told her I like to smoke weed sometimes but only weed. Did not consent to any other substance being added to the joint. And the brownies were fine for hours its just as soon as I hit that joint is when I started feeling black out ish. When 9/11 was called I started to become non complaint with the staff because I was worried the police would question her, so aside from getting bloodpressure work done ( it was high) I refused to do anything while in the hospital, walked out around 13 hours or less later. No social worker talked to me or anythin. I kept telling them I was fine, despite not being fine.

I have 0% idea of what was added to the weed, but I can tell you this, she has track marks on her arm and does have mushrooms in her house.

No signs or marks of assault on me.

I think he said that there wasn’t assault:

OK sorry but I'm confused again. You mention weed brownies but then you also say "joint" a couple of times.
There were weed brownies and rolled joints? Or just weed brownies?

Mushrooms can be dangerous stuff.
I know two young women who dropped (passed out) from them recently.

Weed brownies are legal where I live.
My daughter made them for friends once, and got the recipe wrong.
They were too strong.
Both of her friends passed out and needed an ambulance.
They were both fine, but one of them took many hours for the effect to wear off.

If she's using and she has track marks, run for the hills.
This doesn't seem like a safe situation.

As for the assault, you can contact a sexual assault crisis line to ask for support and guidance.
Your doctor might be able to help too.

Edit: I reread. There was a joint. Sorry about that.
It's possible she cut it with hash or a harder THC strain.

Is Fentanyl a problem where you live?
Do you have access to free Fentanyl detox kits?
Here we can get them at the pharmacy for free.
I'm actually getting one tomorrow. You never know when an emergency could happen.

Right. Thanks.
It's just that the thread title and the circumstance suggest there's some uncertainty.
If he was drugged and blacked out, it's hard to know for sure.
Men and women who are drugged might not show obvious marks or injuries.
I hope nothing happened but the drugging itself should be reported.
That's a criminal offence.

She should have called 911 and taken responsibility when you passed out.
Something's not right whether it's her drugs or her intentions.

I can't imagine what her intent was.
Maybe she was careless, maybe she was malicious.
Either way I would cut all contact.
Avoid any street drugs and only use licensed, reputable dispensaries.
Ours are run by the government and inspected all the time.

You might be able to report her now, since you'd have hospital paperwork.
She could be doing this to others, or risking their lives.

thats true, she actually drives like this btw, smoking all day and getting behind the wheel.

thats true, she actually drives like this btw, smoking all day and getting behind the wheel.

My ex used to drive high.
He smoked pot when driving.
One time we got pulled over and they searched the whole car.
They almost arrested me because I had a prescription pill in my bag, with my mother' s name on it.
Her name didn't match my ID.
They thought I was trafficking drugs.
Meanwhile, that was my overbearing mother shoving a headache tablet in my purse bc I felt ill.
I didn't even know it was there.

Moral of the story: I could have gone to jail on drug charges because of his idiocy.
Not to mention his poor driving when high.

We're still friends but I've never set foot in his car again.