Another reason not to get married

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15 Sep 2007, 5:07 pm

I would like to get married, but I am scared it will be the final nail in the coffin that has been my life, and it will end in murder/suicide/divorce.

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15 Sep 2007, 5:13 pm

Or just a seperation, with no real
resolution. Never even knowing if
she's still alive....

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15 Sep 2007, 5:44 pm

Just don't get married and stop nagging.

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15 Sep 2007, 5:53 pm

Too late here.

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15 Sep 2007, 6:08 pm

Todd489 wrote:

Ikea is a furniture store.

And a very good furniture store, I might add.

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16 Sep 2007, 5:59 pm

Tim_Tex wrote:

Todd489 wrote:

Ikea is a furniture store.

And a very good furniture store, I might add.

Tim

Well, I'm more of an Art Van kind of guy.

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16 Sep 2007, 6:35 pm

I found that being married created a new image of me... to myself and others.
From family to friends to co-workers, it allows you to become member in a club, but cuts you out of another one.

Same thing when my daughter was born... now, although we were still in the 'married' club, we no longer belonged in the 'married without children' club but in the 'married with children' club.

We actually accrued a new set of friends leaving the others behind, or else they moved on because of the kid element they couldn't relate to.

As far as the original post... sorry... the OP... :wink:

Before I got married, I lived with my 'girlfriend' in her duplex. She actually hired a lady to come in once-a-week to clean up the place. Since I kept my stuff in boxes in a closet, I didn't contribute much to the clutter at first.
I did try to help clean up the house, make dinners, etc.

After marriage, I kept doing the same things... trying to clean the house (with no maid this time), do laundry and make dinners.
We mostly shared duties, but since my wife worked longer hours than me, I tried to take up the slack by doing more of the stuff around the house.
With my ADD/HD, I wasn't always successful though.

After our daughter was born, I added parenting to my list of things to do and pretty much quit working full-time.
I still worked part-time, and alternately tried to attend university, but I also had this little person to cart along with me everywhere.
I also continued to try and have dinner ready when my wife came home... again, not always successful or not always to her liking.

Once my divorce is complete, I figure my days of marriage will be over with. Fourteen years is enough of an experience for me.
Since I also don't see any kind of intimate involvement with anyone in my future, this is all moot to me. :wink:

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16 Sep 2007, 6:36 pm

Didn't tell people we were married,
until it kinda slipped out.

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20 Sep 2007, 12:31 pm

calandale wrote:

There is when you ain't seen your wife in
over two years.

...or even five years!! !
If anyone spots her can you please tell her to contact me - I want a divorce.

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20 Sep 2007, 1:21 pm

darkness2004 wrote:

Best reason to NOT get married:

There are simply too few people in the world that are worth committing your entire life and all of your assets to. Not to mention the exclusive rights to your sex drive. 99% of the world's people are only concerned with what they can get out of a person, not the person themselves, their feelings, or being connected to someone physically, spiritually, and emotionally. They are only concerned with power, control, and the acquisition of material wealth.

That’s whyIf you have a partner that understands and accepts you, is supportive of you in times of need, and is able to compromise with you so that you both can get what you want in life, instead of the all-too-common co-dependent, my-way-or-the-highway relationship, start praising God. You have no idea how lucky you really are.

I also agree with what that other guy said. There is a growing conservative trend amongst young people that make them want to have traditional, fundamental gender roles in a marriage or committed relationships. I don’t think that is good thing, for those interested in equality.

yep. my parents are happily married, and i've seen a small number of other cases, but they're pretty much the exception - most people are single, divorced, widowed or unhappily married. A good marriage is like winning the lottery - very good if it happens, but don't count on it happening.
I don't think there's anything wrong with marriage as an institution, it's just that it's an institution people misuse. It's a bit like politics - you could have the best-designed political institutions, but if they're by loonies, don't expect good governance.

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21 Sep 2007, 11:10 am

I'd say this is a reason TO get married. My girlfriend is one of those people who just drops things when she's done with them and never bothers to do anything about it. Our bedroom floor is covered in clothes, the couch is covered in her magazines, books and knitting supplies, the floor is covered in popcorn... Argh! I clean up after her every day just because I'm tired of begging her to do it.

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21 Sep 2007, 11:42 pm

autisticon wrote:

Damn, I wish I could have a girlfriend who leaves all her clothes on the floor.

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21 Sep 2007, 11:47 pm

I would only consider a celtic based wedding...something not done via the church etc.

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