Aspie dating success stories

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Sorry that I was late replying, but I saw your note while on vacation. I did not remember my password and could not log in on my phone. Now I am back.

I did not want to elaborate further in my first post, because you said you were tired of hearing negative stuff, and only wanted to hear about Aspie dating success stories.

My first date was a success. Of course, every story ends, because we are mortal, and eventually we die, or something happens before we die, and the story ends in a not-so-positive way. So, brevity is the best way to stay positive in a story about a mortal life. But you have asked for elaboration, so I will continue.

What happened immediately after was that I felt like she ghosted me. She would not reply to my email afterward, and my doubts started to increase. Then I texted her, and she did not respond to my text. Two days passed. Perhaps I should have waited longer? I was not sure how to interpret her unresponsiveness. This is the problem with Asperger's, we are in the dark sometimes, and do not know how to interpret the behavior of others, we have only our own experiences to guide us and rules of behavior we have learned.

I texted her something flippant and abrupt, maybe a little cutting? She then called me right away, within 5 minutes. She was cold and business-like, judgemental, and began finding faults with me and belittling me. She analyzed of our previous interactions and pointed out all the ways in which I was not the suave and perceptive man that she expected. She then said that she was going to sleep on it, then call me the next morning with her decision.

She called the next morning and ended the relationship, before it had any time to progress further. So, we only had the one time together in the park, and that was the end of everything. I deleted her number from my phone and never heard from her again.

It is a common experience in my life, relationships are short-circuited before I am permitted any time to learn anything much at all. People like to find one thing or another wrong with the person they are with. They decide that they can do better if they just keep searching and never settle for an imperfect human. They enjoy the thrill of meeting new people and think that is exciting. It is their choice, life is a series of choices.

I do not think she was entirely free from blemish either, I think that she was not a kind or understanding person. That is why she was single, and why she nursed a big glass of wine in her hand, when we were on video chat together. She drank a lot and that is why she had a bad knee, and had the knee surgery, because sitting around drinking all the time is not good for the body, especially when you get to be our age. She may have had a lot of money, that will not compensate for a bad lifestyle. I did not tell her these things, but they occurred to me later. When someone judges you, then feel free to judge them back.

Human relationships are for others. For me, I take comfort in my furry friends, who are not judgemental or manipulative and only require kindness and thoughtfulness. I also find solace in God and the knowledge that this life is not forever, but will end at a point of time, and all of the trials will be over.

It is still pleasant for me to think back to that one date that we had together, when I had the illusion that this was love, and that my life had changed, and that I had a girlfriend. It was a day spent in Paradise, and that is something that she cannot take away. I can go back to that day anytime that I want.

a reminder on how i refuse to call my last partner an ex-GF, b/c in terms of physical affection, we did nothing below the pants, it never went further beyond kissing/cuddling/making out.