Feel bad for being attracted to women younger than me

Post Reply New Topic

I don't think there is anything wrong with it either. Currently, i think i have a crush on someone 13 years older than me.

I can't understand why it would be a problem even if someone's partner is 5 years older or younger than them because this video I saw about age gaps explained that as the age gap widens from 5 years onwards the more likely there might be a split up or divorce. Someone did explain that it might be difficult for an 18 year old to date a 23 or 24 year old. I know of someone who was 20 or 21 and was going out with a 27 year old for a while but are no longer together.

Last edited by chris1989 on 07 Mar 2025, 3:31 pm, edited 1 time in total.

I wouldn't worry about it, all that actually matters if the people you're attracted to are fellow adults. If other people disapprove, that's a them issue, not a you and your hypothetical partner issue.

Yep, and it's not like old women aren't attracted to younger men. In recent years the public has been a lot more honest about the fact that it's hardly just older men that like younger women.

Feeling bad is silly. It is what is. You are still in your 30s. It would start being creepy hitting on 20 yr olds once you are in your 40s.

My girlfriend is 42 & she can be attracted to both younger men & women. For example we were eating out yesterday & after we got home Cass made a comment about our server being cute & we don't remember the server's exact age but she did say she wasn't old enough to drink(I had got a beer). I agreed with Cass that she is cute. We have no reason to feel guilty since we weren't coming on to her or talking about her looks in front of her or anything.

My grandfather would have been twenty two when my grandmother was born.

There's way worse, but don't get tunnel vision.

I was hit on by a young woman last fall. Under half my age is too young for me.
She noticed that I spent $$$ fixing up my house.

The only real reason to feel bad about being attracted to younger women is how unlikely it is they'll be attracted to you.
Rejoice !
You were attracted to someone !
This proves that A/. You're alive and B/. There's someone cute in visible range. (I can go weeks without seeing an unrelated human)

Damn! I threw $$$ renovated my place last year and even the grannies on my street didn't try and hit on me!

Age doesn't matter.

I think that once you hit a certain age, the range widens a little more. I usually dated within 4 years of my age, and I think that somehow started because some personal experiences stunted my emotional development for 4 years at the least. My longest relationship was with a girl 4 years older than me. I made the terrible mistake of dating a girl that was ~12 years younger than me, and I'll never do that again. There's too little in common on so many levels. I honestly can't see myself trusting anyone enough to date ever again anyway, so it's not like that matters. But yeah, I don't think you'll find many men that will look at a generally attractive 25-30 year old woman and not think they're hot.

I mean women in thier 20's are technically adults, so I don't think there is anything wrong with seeing them as attractive at the age of 30. That said its probably better to look towards mid 20's and older for dating because under that they are still kind of figuring themselves out so they could change a lot and could be at a very different place in life.

I met my boyfriend when I was 26 and he was 30, So yeah he was still attracted to women in their 20's but I doubt he would have wanted to date me if I was like just 21 cause he would have felt like I was too much of a kid compared to him. And now I am 35 and I could not imagine trying to date someone in their early 20's(even if they did look attractive) as they'd probably seem super immature to me.

"Dirty Old Man" should be a badge of honor.

In my case, seriously, I would like for there to be people closer to my age who have the same interests. But I have no problem with being with someone in their 20s or 30s if they like the things I like.

The real problem is that regardless of age, very few people outside of NYC, San Francisco, or Seattle have the same interests.